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Found the email and all I really told her was that I understand what I did wrong. Don't know if that is considered an apology.
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Found the email and all I really told her was that I understand what I did wrong. Don't know if that is considered an apology. I think you should get into Plan B and write her a Plan B letter. Have you followed jah's thread? He is implementing Plan B today. You can follow the Plan B template and change it to your situation, but it has an apology in it. Tell me what you think. Plan B letter samples
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So I should skip plan a even though I haven't implemented it very well.
Can you give me a link to Jah's thread.
The email I sent ww telling her I understood what I did wrong in the marriage was sent two days after I caught the OM in my house.
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So I should skip plan a even though I haven't implemented it very well.
Can you give me a link to Jah's thread.
The email I sent ww telling her I understood what I did wrong in the marriage was sent two days after I caught the OM in my house. Well I would start to prepare for Plan B and as you're preparing for Plan B implement the best Plan A until you go into Plan B. Does that make sense? Jah's ThreadHere's another good thread to read of a BH preparing for Plan B/D from thier WW. looking_for_help's thread
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Hey BH, it makes perfect sense.
I was reading through some of LFH's thread, how do I write Dr. Harley personally?
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Hey BH, it makes perfect sense.
I was reading through some of LFH's thread, how do I write Dr. Harley personally? Email your questions to Joyce Harley at mbradio@marriagebuilders.com Let us know what he says. If you email it today you might get a response before the end of the week. Make sure you put something in your subject line to help it not go into spam.
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Ok I will try again. I sent an email to Joyce Harley back on April 18th. It must have went to the spam folder. I will have to try different subject line this time.
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Ok I will try again. I sent an email to Joyce Harley back on April 18th. It must have went to the spam folder. I will have to try different subject line this time. After you send it notify the mods to let them know you had problems last time and you want to make sure they get it this time. We had one poster that sent it 3 times and the MODS got involved and the Harleys finally received it. Notify at the bottom of each post and then let them know. Also let them know what email addy you're sending it from so they can watch out for it. Please do not give up on it.
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I will not give up on my marriage until the judge says it is over.
Just sent the email and just notified the mods.
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I received your notification and have emailed Dr Harley & Joyce. I don't expect an immediate response because they are out of the country right now but should return in about a week.
If you don't hear something from Joyce within about two weeks,,please recontact me!
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Good t2c it looks like you will get a response. Keep us updated and in the mean time Plan A like a rockstar. Did you send her the email yet? HAve you talked with her?
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This is what I have so far as the email I want to send ww. Do you think I need to add anything to it.
" I have been doing some heavy thinking over the past couple of weeks. Through it all I have come to the conclusion that I am not ready to give up on my family.
We're still married and I'd be more than happy for you to move back into our marital home. I believe the kids would be happy for that to."
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Also add I apologize to you for my part in creating an environment that helped make your affair with xyz possible.
I foolishly pursued my own choices without understanding my responsibility to meet your most important emotional needs. I was not there for you when you needed me the most, and we are now both suffering for my mistake.
I am willing to avoid the mistakes I've made in the past and create a new life for both of us that will meet your needs. But I cannot do that until you end your relationship with xyz for once and for all.
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I want to apologize for not responding for the past four days, but I had some of the best days I have had since all this started. I spent all four days with both my sons. It was great.
I will add what you wrote BH and send the email out. This will probably be her last chance, she will then have to deal with the consequences of her actions.
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I want to apologize for not responding for the past four days, but I had some of the best days I have had since all this started. I spent all four days with both my sons. It was great.
I will add what you wrote BH and send the email out. This will probably be her last chance, she will then have to deal with the consequences of her actions. Glad to hear it and keep enjoying those boys because even if your marriage doesn't survive your relationship with them is what is important. So when do you plan to send this out? In the same time your preparing for Plan B, correct?
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Tomorrow, and I will get started on a plan b letter.
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Tomorrow, and I will get started on a plan b letter. Good. Also I would line up an IM also. Do you have one?
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Waiting on a reply back from the WW from the email.
Been using the past few days to try and sort some things out. Been looking at plan b letters and trying to figure out what to put in to mine if it comes down to that.
Not sure who to use as my IM right off hand. Still looking into that one.
Also haven't heard back from the Harley's yet so I just notified the mods again.
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Waiting on a reply back from the WW from the email.
Been using the past few days to try and sort some things out. Been looking at plan b letters and trying to figure out what to put in to mine if it comes down to that.
Not sure who to use as my IM right off hand. Still looking into that one.
Also haven't heard back from the Harley's yet so I just notified the mods again. How long ago did you send WW the email? Did you send the email to the Harleys again also?
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