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Ok people 3 months on..... I have access to her emails and fbook. She is not talking to the om anymore. No one has been coming round the house. Still in the sane situation. No sex, feel unloved and no answers. She won't even talk about it. Any suggestions?
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FWW/BW (me) WH 2nd M for both Blended Family with 7 kids between us Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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Yeh you see everything they say comes down to talking with eachother. She isn't prepared to talk about our marriage with me so I'm stuck in a kinda limbo waiting for her to feel ready to talk. Iv been waiting for her to be ready to talk about our marriage since the beginning of the year. Evrrytime I say can we have a chat, its never a good time for her. I'm beginning to think that she might want me to leave her and this is her way of pushing me away.
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Yeh you see everything they say comes down to talking with eachother. She isn't prepared to talk about our marriage with me so I'm stuck in a kinda limbo waiting for her to feel ready to talk. Iv been waiting for her to be ready to talk about our marriage since the beginning of the year. Evrrytime I say can we have a chat, its never a good time for her. I'm beginning to think that she might want me to leave her and this is her way of pushing me away. Can you afford the coaching center? So will she talk about other things with you? What are her top EN?
FWW/BW (me) WH 2nd M for both Blended Family with 7 kids between us Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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Coaching center? We tried councilling but she didn't agree with anything the councillor said and even tried arguing with the councillor. Her en. I don't know because she doesnt talk to me about anything anymore. She used to like a chat about her day at work when she got home, cuddles on the sofa just chilling. Cooking dinner every now and then, taking her out. Just listening when she moans.being there for cuddles when she is poorly. But none of these work. It's as though she is just numb. She won't talk about anything.
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Here are some good ones on Intimate conversation. Tell us what you think. Radio clip on intimate conversation Segment #2 Segment #3 Are you trying to talk marriage talk all the time?
FWW/BW (me) WH 2nd M for both Blended Family with 7 kids between us Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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Most marriage counselors have a 84% failure rate. MB coaching center You need to sell her on the MB program and she will want to get on board. What are her complaints about you? Can you figure out what her top EN are and start making deposits? EN questionnaire
FWW/BW (me) WH 2nd M for both Blended Family with 7 kids between us Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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No sometimes I leave it a week, a month before mentioning it again. Iv been trying to make love deposits but she just ignores it. No matter what I do she has no reaction. Iv give her space, spent lots of time with her. Makes no difference. It's never the right time to talk. Even on a real softly softly catch a monkey approach. It's never the right time to talk. Her only complaint is that I made her like this by looking at porn. Bearing in mind this was last year. I can understand how it would of made her feel. But for this long? And she is not prepared to talk about it. The councillor we saw I thought was very good, I opened up told him what I had done and why and I had realised what I had done wrong.and I admitted that and am ready to move on.but my wife seems to think her ea was justifiable and in.her eyes has done nothing wrong at all. It's all me. And the most iv got out of her was a few weeks ago. And she said she can just about bear to be in the same room as me now. Maybe we can talk in a few days. That was about 3weeks ago. She still refuses to talk because somedays just being around her repulses her. I feel like crap all the time because of this. She really knows how to make a guy feel low
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No sometimes I leave it a week, a month before mentioning it again. Iv been trying to make love deposits but she just ignores it. No matter what I do she has no reaction. Iv give her space, spent lots of time with her. Makes no difference. It's never the right time to talk. Even on a real softly softly catch a monkey approach. It's never the right time to talk. Her only complaint is that I made her like this by looking at porn. Bearing in mind this was last year. I can understand how it would of made her feel. But for this long? And she is not prepared to talk about it. The councillor we saw I thought was very good, I opened up told him what I had done and why and I had realised what I had done wrong.and I admitted that and am ready to move on.but my wife seems to think her ea was justifiable and in.her eyes has done nothing wrong at all. It's all me. And the most iv got out of her was a few weeks ago. And she said she can just about bear to be in the same room as me now. Maybe we can talk in a few days. That was about 3weeks ago. She still refuses to talk because somedays just being around her repulses her. I feel like crap all the time because of this. She really knows how to make a guy feel low Are you on any ADs? So what do you do when she says she's repulsed by you? Will you please at least email Dr. Harley? Email your questions to Joyce Harley at mbradio@marriagebuilders.com
FWW/BW (me) WH 2nd M for both Blended Family with 7 kids between us Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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Please listen to this and tell me what you think. It's about a wife in the state of withdrawal and doesn't want her husband to touch her. Radio clip on a Wife not wanting to be touched by her husband at 9:30
FWW/BW (me) WH 2nd M for both Blended Family with 7 kids between us Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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Here's another good clip about why a wife wouldn't be in love with her husband. Radio clip on why a wife wouldn't be in love with her husband
FWW/BW (me) WH 2nd M for both Blended Family with 7 kids between us Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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