Ok, so where do I start. First off all the red flags with my wife have started going off. Text messages that get deleted, drinking to excess, she really hides stuff when she drinks. With our cell phones all being on the same plan, it shows all the text messages sent and received but not the content. So when I saw a 2 hour text exchange with this other man and it was deleted off the phone. I decided to install SMS back up as it is a android phone an backs them up to gmail:

This is actual text
Wife:How r u 2day?
other:Doing busy at work.. and you?
Wife:Wishin I cud hav a hug?
other:Will have to work something out
Wife:Sports starts nxt wk. Gonna hav 2 ck on my work 2
Other: Hmmm
Other: How does friday look for u
Wife:(husband) off 4 his bday. 4 us...

I guess I am looking for confirmation on what this text is really talking about. Is this a hookup that did not happen? My biggest issue is the 4 us. It says that she thinks of them as a US.

What does everyone else think?

I think you need to do some serious spying and catch them hooking up. Be quiet, be calm, and catch them. Don't give yourself away.

hi nitra, welcome to MB. you're lucky your wife has an android. hop on over to eblaster and get some spyware on there pronto (including GPS). you need more info; don't assume, though the text is not good. don't be hasty. collect your evidence, and post back here so we can help you. do not tell your WW about MB! i am sorry you have found yourself here, but this is the best place for help!

If your wife is an alcoholic you have a bigger problem than her affair.
Is she alcoholic?
Are you an alcoholic?

Letty - I am collecting evidence right now, and thanks for the link to eblaster. Have to figure out a way to get it on the phone.
HDW - I am not a alcoholic, in fact I drink very rarely (glass of wine with dinner once in a while), sometimes I think she is an alcoholic, and sometimes not. She can go days without drinking, but then she hides how much she drinks. At times she drinks to a point where she is passing out. So think this all folds into it.

Reading the "snooping" post really opened my eyes. So will keep everyone informed.

Nitramro take it from a recovering alcoholic if your wife is drinking until she passes out she is an alcoholic. That is just part of your problems.

Please read all three letters in this series.
Alcoholic Spouse #1

Can you snag her phone while she is sleeping? It is not that hard to install. It takes about 10 minutes.

He's already done this. That's how he got the messages he posted.

He hasn't installed EBlaster yet, just SMS backup. What he has is limited to text messages. EBlaster is much more than that and would be of immense help in his situation.