My husband and I are now seperated. I just couldnt get past what he did to me. We have been together for 19 years. Im having a hard time today because I miss him. I know I cant be with him though. Tell me the missing your spouse gets better. I do love him but sometimes love just isnt enough. So I decided to move on with my life. I am in counceling to help me though. I am now a single mom with a soon to be 14 year old and newborn twins. How am I suppose to do all this. Whew.... Will anybody want someone that have newborn twins. I will eventually want to date again. I just want someone to really love me.

Right now, with all the responsibilities you have, you do not have the luxury of romantic dating desires.

Your 3 kids "really love" you.
Put your efforts there.
You have no business dating.
I KNOW you wrote "eventually" .... but you are an emotional mess. You kids need a STRONG and focused mom.

FORGET ABOUT DATING !!!!!!

Have you or your H filed for divorce yet?

You asked a legitimate question and it deserves an honest answer. Pepper is right in that it is not the time now to consider dating...you want to first discover if the marriage can be saved and if it could be better than ever, would you still want it? Have either of you filed for Divorce yet? Tell us more about your marriage and separation, how it came about, fill in some details please, it will help us respond to you appropriately.

As to whether or not someone would want someone with baby twins and a teenager...they won't be that age when you are ready to date. You'd first have to get through divorce, all of the inner healing that needs to take place, learning from what went wrong, working on yourself, etc. You will NOT want to bring guys around your kids, and guys in/out of their lives is confusing and too emotionally difficult on them.

I'm sure those guys (that want someone with babies and a teen) exist, but I haven't met them. I haven't even met one that would just want ME! Does that answer your question? They may be out there, but hard to find. Don't worry about that right now. Sometimes life happens best when you're busy living it.

Happy all the time

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I don't understand the "happy all the time" comment. It seems random/out of context. Can you explain the meaning behind your remark? I also see you only have one other post, last month, equally random/out of context. What is your story, why are you here? (please start your own thread so we can respond to you there)

I just seperated and have 4 kids. (3 with her) You sound like my wife where I did too much damage and she just had to cut ties. I don't have any advice for you but I feel the same way wondering if someone wants a dad with 4 kids? It would be nice to have someone to fall back on. (I have that feeling too). But what I have learned is you have to deal through that pain first before you can be a good partner for anyone else again. Did your H try to get help what does he suffer from? If he got the help he needed could you really honestly forgive him? (My wife couldn't...I tried everything but don't blame her for letting go).

What the hell does that even mean?

I hate ambiguous, nonsensical comments like these, love is an action, love is a commitment, the FEELING of love follows the response to act in a loving way. If you miss him, if you love him or even just WANT to love him, let him know your desires and then go out and do it.

I am in same boat; but divorced now and quite lonely but have a teenage daughter. Time will heal your wounds. And yes someone will marry you again with children. Do not worry about that at all.