Did you read this?
Polygraph Testing

"1. Keep test to 2/3 questions - no more. The fewer the questions the more accurate the results."

Are they serious? I will continue reading, many thanks.

"The fact is that IF your issues with memory are true, and you have difficulty distinguishing what happened from what you "think" happened, the polygraph could give bad results."

Hmm he does have many problems with memory..and not just with is infidelity , has it with everything. Maybe this test wouldn't be ok for him?

You heard what Dr. Harley said about polygraphs, correct?

He says he would tell a WS to do the poly.

Nikkin,

You are still in Plan C here. Plan Nikkin. Nikkin is not an experienced marriage counselor and is far too involved in the situation to see what steps need to be done in order to save her marriage.

This thread is relevant for you
BSs...Plan C is NOT a plan!
http://forum.marriagebuilders.com/ubbt/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2054223#Post2054223

I've noticed throughout your thread that you make up a LOT of excuses for this man due to his "age" (I say "age" because really, he's not that old), memory, being taken advantage of, etc. Then you go in the opposite direction, as if he was a child, mentioning that his friends push him into these situations, etc. 'peer pressure' I would expect of an 11 year old boy.

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This is part of your Plan C and this is getting you into a revolving door of no change or remorse of the situation.

For your own sake, PLEASE start considering MB's Plan A - to the letter T - no matter how much you think it doesn't really apply to your husband. Because those judgments are leading you astray.

I still can not listen to any of those small voice things from Dr. Harley. I CAN listen/watch his videos though. I have tried everything.

Did you update your flash player?

Look at this for help. Thread to help listen to radio clips

When I expose my WH to some people, should I aslo notify his best friend's fiance (by private facebook message). , who went to strip clubs with him , and would go into private rooms with them. I know I would want to know this.

nikkin, yes, I would tell her everything. She needs to get tested for STDs too.

Have you tried downloading firefox? That is the only way I can play the radio clips.

I did =still not play clips:( I have a sony vaio, new.. and the lasted player was well..

When I read book about not bring up my husband's infidelity any longer, and reading these boards, I get the feeling that it is only cause you remind them of a maybe a woman/mad they were in love with , but in my case he would love to forget..does this still hold true for me?
Thanks!

You are nowhere near that point.

Your husband is still lying to you - get your polygraph and then revisit those issues.

Wow oh wow! So I said, and did text OW#2 to ask for her take on the affair with WH, when I told my WH this, he had some other confessions to make.. He took her and the OW#1 to our lake house:(( once each he says. He also had #2 just 2 months after meeting #1, so the entire time he pretty much alternated between the two for 1 anad 1/2 years. . He liked #1 better though, cause she was younger(23-25)and acted like she liked it better, and #2 was 30 something, married with 3 kids.. Keep in mind we are 53!!

He now says he did help pay for a car for hooker#1..And they had sex in hotel in FL, at her request to pay him back for airplane ride.. but he really didn't want to..lol. And this is while she was between detoxing from heroin.

It's amazing , simply amazing .. He didn't tell me cause he didn't want to hurt me any more.. BUT he has read toooo many things that tell him you have to be 100% honest or this will never be okay.

Again thanks guys.. without this board , I would have never pressed the issues. Still going for the lie detector test.

One thing that scared the life out of me was this weekend, when I found out he had sex with #1 in FL, and he swore to our son he did not.. And it matters, cause he was then only suppose to be doing covering up job so she does not blackmail him since OCT 2011/DEC, but yet still in 2012 has sex with her?? Anyway.. this weekend he after a heated fight, he got out his gun, and locked our bedroom door:(( I was able to talk him from that.. but I think can we really heal from all this mess:((( I love him dearly...always will with him or not.. We are so broken.. though.

Nikkin,

You have reached the point of "When to Call It Quits".

I appreciate you think you can save this marriage but you need to look at the facts - he has access to a gun during verbal fights? You are at serious safety risk. Do you understand what you are dealing with? You are looking at an unstable man who is now incredibly dangerous. Please contact a domestic violence shelter today.

This is beyond a polygraph. You are in danger.

Someone who pulls out a gun in an argument and who is financing young heroin-addicted hookers is someone YOU CANNOT FIX, NO MATTER WHO HE IS.