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Thanks Unwritten. I recently read a post that saddened me, and reminded that the secret fantasy life FWW lived and its intense emotional component can't be matched by my relationship with her. I believe that is true, regardless of how much I will try to match it. Would appreciate some veterans commenting on this idea. Her feelings in her affair will PALE in comparison to the feelings you can create in a romantic marriage. A fantasy can't be sustained, but a passionate, romantic marriage CAN BE. You need to focus on creating a great marriage to create the hole left by her affair. If you want this, though, it won't ever happen unless you get in your UA time.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Thanks Unwritten. I recently read a post that saddened me, and reminded that the secret fantasy life FWW lived and its intense emotional component can't be matched by my relationship with her. I believe that is true, regardless of how much I will try to match it. Would appreciate some veterans commenting on this idea. Her feelings in her affair will PALE in comparison to the feelings you can create in a romantic marriage. A fantasy can't be sustained, but a passionate, romantic marriage CAN BE. You need to focus on creating a great marriage to create the hole left by her affair. If you want this, though, it won't ever happen unless you get in your UA time. So true - and can't be said enough!!! I think all BS's worry about this, SadDude, but Mel is right on the money.
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