Markos, we do have conversations about non marriage or issues, I just do most of the talking b/c I do not get any reactions or questions about what I am talking about I then say what I need to say or try and ask him questions and I get one word answers. That's pretty much how our conversations go. I usually have to prompt conversations.

Now I am getting flack for how I handled a conversation I had with his mother over voting. I nor my husband are registered voters and I we stared have a discussion about voting. I said my opinion, and she pushed hers on me. She didn't even mention or acknowledge that her own son is not a registered voter nor did my hubby chime into the conversation. At one point I felt like I was being bullied into registering to vote and also felt like it was going to turn into an arguement so I ended the conversation with, You (my MIL) are entitled to your opinion about politics and I am entitled to mine, let's just agree to disagree. Well, now I am getting flack from my husband about abruptly stopping conversations.

I am really tired of feeling like no matter what he is going to 'side' with his Mom in any conversation/debate we are having. The fact that he is not a registered voter either and he was not brought up in the conversation really feels to me like she is making things worse in our marriage. She says she wants to bring us together but when I am feeling bullied by his Mom he does nothing about it.


BWS71 - what steps did your wife take in order to get you to understand that your IB was hurting your marriage and not helping it??