Can you get into Plan B and protect yourself from his drama?

My kids leave to spend 5 weeks with him in another state next week? I simply don't know how to go NC with that situation. My oldest is only 9.

Where can I find the info about letter writing for plan B?

Read all of this and go to the end because it has the templates for Plan B letters.
How to plan B properly

Also can you get a prepaid phone for DD9? Then you won't need to talk to him.

Unfortunately our parenting plan requires a LOT of direct contact. He wanted a ton of contact about the kids nonstop and even if Si got my oldest a prepaid cell during her weeks they are supposed to go there this summer, she is special needs so despite her being 9, it's more like 5 emotionally in delays, lacking maturity and my youngest who will go is just barely 3. I can't count on that for contact with then while they are gone.


I'm not sure what I would address with the letter? He said he's not in a relationship her anymore, but I don't know if it's zero contact and have no way of knowing since he lives in another state and the divorce will be final this week. I keep wanting him to step up and offer these things I need like NC, financial support above state minimums which aren't enough to provide for our children and will have me trapped in a poverty cycle, complete openness/honesty. He hasnt so I have to assume that he isn't 100% committed yet and I deserve that.

" I keep wanting him to step up and offer these things I need like NC, b financial support above state minimums which aren't enough to provide for our children and will have me trapped in a poverty cycle, complete openness/honesty. He hasnt so I have to assume that he isn't 100% committed yet and I deserve that."

It is insane to expect your ex wayward husband to "step up and offer NC."
He is an irresponsible person that broke up his family. You cannot reasonably expect him to be responsible.

The old saying that most women are one husband away from the welfare line is unfortunately true. Make use of ALL social services you can. Don't expect anything from your ex. If you do he will string you along for years and you will never get emotionally past your divorce.

Don't say I can't. That's resignation.
Say I CAN. Then find the advice, resources and help you need to GET THE JOB DONE.
As for plan B there are many in similar circumstances that should be able to provide guidance. It is up to you to accept what is offered and do it.

I am using all social assistance I can. Sadly, it's not enough. I got nothing in settlement and couldn't afford trial to get my share (would have all gone to trial expenses I'm sure.). He had $99,000 go through his hands since last October and I got nothing from it other than the $6,000 ordered in April I've been living off of. The other woman got thousands and thousands. I will get $1155 a month in child support for 5 kids starting in August if he actually pays plus $1600 a month rehabilitative for a short time. I got the mortgage of $1001 a month and the van payment of $569 a month plus all the expenses of a home and kids, 50% school expenses (which is really 100% then wait for reimbursement), 30% medical expenses on the kids (which are high for my oldest and youngest), no insurance on me or my house or van, all my student loans of which they will not defer them. I am stretched every possible way physically and emotionally as a single mom to 5 kids. I've been looking for a job that will outweigh childcare costs and had no luck. Looking for a work at home reliable income no luck. I do not have family to help, friends to help, and my church doesn't help either. I'm on my own and losing my mind over this. I'm so scared all the time I'll make one wrong move and have huge consequences that will hurt my kids.

It's now down to 3 weeks of his 6 in summer of parenting time and he still hasn't come gotten our children. I didn't want to send them but at the same time needed a small break to have freedom to try and find a job and get things done without the expenses of a sitter. He took the deduction from childcare for travel to see them but hasn't yet.