I was wondering how I can implement Plan A when I'm so angry with my H. And now, I feel so much love him, that I think I can implement Plan A. My emotions are all over the place. My question really is, how does a spouse implement Plan A when dealing with such a range of emotions?<BR>

Hi. I didn't want you to think you went unnoticed. I read your post a few times and couldn't even begin to think of what to tell you.<P>So, I guess this is what MY feeble brain finally came up with. Others will have better advice.<P>You decide. It's that simple and that complicated. You take a look at all the hurt, all the mistrust all the horrible things. Then you remember all the good stuff too. And, for most of us, we get honest with ourselves about our responsibility in this mess. For, although there's no excuse for infidelity, there are lots of reasons that a person (marriage) becomes vulnerable to it and, most of the time, both partners have some responsibility there.<P>Then you decide. Can you do it? It is worth it to you? Can you put aside your justifiable feelings of anger and hurt to love and support the one who hurt you? Sometimes without seeing remorse or much of an effort on their part. Knowing there are no guarentees. And you could be hurt more - and again. <P>But, then again, you could make your marriage the greatest thing you ever dreamed of and reap the rewards for years.<P>It ain't easy. And it's certainly not simple. The ride of your life. For me, it's worth it. At least for now. For as long as I can without destroying myself.<P>For each of us, the answer's a little different, I think. Follow your heart.<P>And good luck.<P>Lori

OOps, sorry - I should read the profiles BEFORE I post. Your profile didn't mention an affair. I just assumed because you had come to our little party here. <P>If I assumed wrong, I apologize. Same thing applies though, I think.<P>Lori