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samson71 #2647654 07/19/12 04:22 AM
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Copied things from Facebook

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Originally Posted by samson71
Copied things from Facebook
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Okay, Samson, are you still living in the family home with WW?


Me (BW): 35
Married 1999 with no kids, DDay July 2011, OC born September 2012, Divorce final November 2012.

WXH (Gollum) is corrupted by his A, and now forever bound to it.

Plan B has set me free.

"Mourn the man he was. Know the man he is."
Caracal #2647660 07/19/12 04:39 AM
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Samson, please read this:

Men, do not leave your home


Me (BW): 35
Married 1999 with no kids, DDay July 2011, OC born September 2012, Divorce final November 2012.

WXH (Gollum) is corrupted by his A, and now forever bound to it.

Plan B has set me free.

"Mourn the man he was. Know the man he is."
samson71 #2647661 07/19/12 04:49 AM
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Originally Posted by samson71
Ct , consulted an attorney
her family and best friend knows about Lewis
Even if I do tell more people so what its just the victim
Theyll believe her anyway
What does your attorney say?

What do you want? Do you want custody?

As for whether they will believe your WW anyway because you are the victim of adultery... they have believed me with my sitch. And my WH spun a great story... that we were separated before the A began.

Don't doubt your credibility. I initially did this, and hesitated over exposure. NO ONE doubted me. Not one person questioned me, even when I exposed OW to her family and friends. If they do doubt you, so be it, you don't want these people in your life anyway. I find more people want to ignore you, because you speak a truth they do not want to know. It doesn't really matter, because you have cast suspicion on the affair.

You're exposure has been effective if it is done right. Because WW and OM will KNOW everyone else knows. Follow the plans here, so you will know you did all you could to save your marriage.

If that is what you want.

If not, follow the plan to save yourself. I am using MB for my own recovery from an affair.


Me (BW): 35
Married 1999 with no kids, DDay July 2011, OC born September 2012, Divorce final November 2012.

WXH (Gollum) is corrupted by his A, and now forever bound to it.

Plan B has set me free.

"Mourn the man he was. Know the man he is."
Caracal #2647662 07/19/12 04:50 AM
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BTW, I am not sure if CT is a no fault state. Others will cast more light on this.


Me (BW): 35
Married 1999 with no kids, DDay July 2011, OC born September 2012, Divorce final November 2012.

WXH (Gollum) is corrupted by his A, and now forever bound to it.

Plan B has set me free.

"Mourn the man he was. Know the man he is."
Caracal #2647669 07/19/12 05:51 AM
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Yes still living at home.
So far 50/50 with me keeping the house
Buying her out.
get residence to keep kids in same schools
read two of dr hearly's books
Don't feel like I'm going to beat the clock before the divorce
working midnights 3 kids and her working full time leaves little room for change

samson71 #2647673 07/19/12 06:27 AM
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I go home on pins and needles. U never know what's going to set her off!

samson71 #2647679 07/19/12 06:43 AM
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Originally Posted by samson71
Also if I don't go along with mediation she will just get an attorney.

That would be great. But you need to stop contributing to the demise of your marriage if you want to save it. GEt the evidence of her affair and EXPOSE IT. Saying "people know" doesn't mean anything. You need to expose the fact that she is abandoning her marriage and her children so she can chase some sleazebag. Go read the link in my signature.


"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt

Exposure 101


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Originally Posted by samson71
Yes still living at home.
So far 50/50 with me keeping the house
Buying her out.
get residence to keep kids in same schools
read two of dr hearly's books
Don't feel like I'm going to beat the clock before the divorce
working midnights 3 kids and her working full time leaves little room for change

If you work opposite shifts it will be next to impossible to save your marriage. And doing that is probably what led to her affair. Can you change that?

Does the OM have a facebook page?


"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt

Exposure 101


samson71 #2647681 07/19/12 06:46 AM
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Originally Posted by samson71
Ct , consulted an attorney
her family and best friend knows about Lewis
Even if I do tell more people so what its just the victim
Theyll believe her anyway

It will make a difference if you call them up and tell them she wants a divorce due to her affair. Ask them all to use their influence to persuade her to end her affair.

Expose the affair to all of the OM's friends and family.


"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt

Exposure 101


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