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home, what does he do for a living that gives him the freedom to chase skanks?
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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He is in carpentry now but during his intense shank chasing days he decided to open his own detailing shop where he brought in no money and sat around all day on the internet finding skanks while I was at home with a new baby.
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D-day July 5, 2011 EA
D-day #2 August 8, 2011 (admitted to PA)
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In carpentry with the person he used crack with. Nice right. He also works for a good friend of mine cleaning office buildings. Every saturday he cleans a building in one of the skanks town and drives past the motel he had sex with the shank in.
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Married 13 years
5 kids together
D-day July 5, 2011 EA
D-day #2 August 8, 2011 (admitted to PA)
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He is in carpentry now but during his intense shank chasing days he decided to open his own detailing shop where he brought in no money and sat around all day on the internet finding skanks while I was at home with a new baby. He was just saying that some of the guys he works with gawk at women and chase them. [he was feigning moral outrage..  ] So it sounds like he is an environment where he can behave like a weasel. Is he self employed? If so, I would be thinking of getting him into a line of work where he can't do this. Maybe working 9 to 5 for some responsible business owner?
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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home, what are the ages of your children?
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Also, does he have a learning disability? Is there a reason why his posts are so poorly written?
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I agree but at this point I cannot worry myself with that. i've deleted the gps, and the spyware on his phone. I truly believe he is just going to screw up again and I'm not emotional ok for that. I won't make it out of anymore disappointment. You have to understand that even after returning home to work on recovery he met a man and received oral. He is not safe alone and I'm not his mom. I've spent 13 years protecting him from himself. I can't do it anymore. If he wants to crash and burn than fine I can't help him. I'm getting the poly for me because I deserve the truth regardless of whether I have to pry it out of him.. After that I'm not sure what I'll do.
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D-day July 5, 2011 EA
D-day #2 August 8, 2011 (admitted to PA)
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Don't think so, he just types them out on his phone fast. My children are 14, 12, 5, 3, and 1.
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5 kids together
D-day July 5, 2011 EA
D-day #2 August 8, 2011 (admitted to PA)
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I understand completely.  He is not safe for you, my friend, and until he stops doing this he will just tear you down more. Do you have a plan to protect yourself financially during a separation?
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Not yet I'm working on it. That is my biggest fear but I must overcome it and figure it out. That is how he has held me on this abusive situation with all the lying for years, by providing some kind of financial security. He knows I have a soft heart for leaving my kids. I can't fall for it anymore
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5 kids together
D-day July 5, 2011 EA
D-day #2 August 8, 2011 (admitted to PA)
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Thinking about you Home, let us know how the poly went.
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I am thinking of you. I hope you made it through today. I know it had to be an awful day. I am sooo sorry you have had to endure this. Please know that I am sending positive thoughts and prayers your way. Please take care of yourself. I hope you post soon.
BS Me 47,WH 49
DS's x3 17, 10, 7
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No disclosure by WH. No EP's, no transparency, no guilt or remorse either.
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It was a bad day. He failed all questions on the poly. Guess I expected it but I'm still devastated! From what the examiner said he was using breathing techniques to throw off the machines. He got angry with the examiner and kept demanding he take it again. The examiner said everything went good, test checked out fine, he just lied. It was a very scary ride home because he was very angry.
Me- BW -29
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Married 13 years
5 kids together
D-day July 5, 2011 EA
D-day #2 August 8, 2011 (admitted to PA)
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It was a bad day. He failed all questions on the poly. Guess I expected it but I'm still devastated! From what the examiner said he was using breathing techniques to throw off the machines. He got angry with the examiner and kept demanding he take it again. The examiner said everything went good, test checked out fine, he just lied. It was a very scary ride home because he was very angry.
Me- BW -29
WH -34
Married 13 years
5 kids together
D-day July 5, 2011 EA
D-day #2 August 8, 2011 (admitted to PA)
My world changed on July 26,2012
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It was a bad day. He failed all questions on the poly. Guess I expected it but I'm still devastated! From what the examiner said he was using breathing techniques to throw off the machines. He got angry with the examiner and kept demanding he take it again. The examiner said everything went good, test checked out fine, he just lied. It was a very scary ride home because he was very angry. I'm very sorry you're going through this homefor5! I expected it! He's a con and a liar. He's in a job where he can lead a secret separate life, hide, lie, con and manipulate you and others. He uses his cell phone to text message on the forum rather than investing any time reading and studying what's available on this site. I refuse to post to him because he is a lazy, wayward man and obviously has NO interest in helping himself. He wants everyone to decipher his cryptic posts, and invests no time in listening or finding answers himself. He comes here looking for His mommy to do his work for him. I'm sure he actually thought he could beat a poly.... Such a wayward. What a waste of time and money. I'm praying for you and your kids!
Recovery began 10/07;
Meeting my wife's EN's is my "thank you" that refuses to be silenced.
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I'm sorry Home. Not unexpected, but still devastating to know the 'truth without the truth.' You know he is lying his pants off, and has no desire to end the lying and help you heal. But you will, unfortunately, never know the truth about what he has done.
Are you prepared for Plan B? What help can we offer you to get you into a dark Plan B? I think it is imperative that you get yourself away from this situation and begin your own journey of self healing asap.
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Hi there homefor5. My heart goes out to you. You really need to protect yourself and your children now. He failed every question? So, he failed the question as to whether or not he ever touched the kids inappropriately? Did you have these suspicions?
BS Me 47,WH 49
DS's x3 17, 10, 7
Multiple D-Days
No disclosure by WH. No EP's, no transparency, no guilt or remorse either.
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Thinking of you. I know you are hurting, but I pray that you stay strong. I am sending positive thoughts and prayers your way.
BS Me 47,WH 49
DS's x3 17, 10, 7
Multiple D-Days
No disclosure by WH. No EP's, no transparency, no guilt or remorse either.
Plan C DOES NOT WORK!
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