OK.
How about sleeping? How many hours a night do you currently average?

That is a very, very sad comment to me. I would much rather see TRT fall off the forums than you, because I would much rather find a way to help YOU than to continue listening to his bullcarky.

I am sorry you feel threatened to even seek help from us. This is a very abusive situation you are in AI.

Yes, it's very abusive. What he is doing is UNACCEPTABLE, and you should not be cut off from HELP because he is being a manipulative [edit].

I don't know. 3-5 probably. I have nightmares that wake me up, and my baby has been getting molars and waking me up a couple times a night as well, so it's all broken up and hard to track.

May 22 was almost two months ago. Two months and look at him today, Al. Sad and telling. I hope you find your strength and momma bear soon and save yourself and your children from this trainwreck.

Your health is at risk, AI

Sweet mama, AI. Please envision all of us joining hands and circling around you and your sweet children. That is what I wish we could do right now to protect you from this pain.

If you are breastfeeding, know that there are AD's out there that are considered safe for breastfeeding. Zoloft is one of them. Those will help with the nightmares. You can take them and still nurse your baby through the night. I hope that helps with your decision. I am so worried about your health.

AI, please check your email.

Thanks again so much to everybody here.

He has left. I'll probably be taking a break from posting here since it's not very safe for me right now.

You all mean a lot to me and I greatly appreciate all your help and advice over the last few months.

AI its beyond sad that TRT's wayward behaviour has resulted in you not feeling safe posting in this forum. It is appalling that he uses your thread against you. Our thoughts are with you. Maybe you could consider taking a break and returning with a new thread and username. Take care of yourself and your children.

AI

Still thinking of you. I know you are in so much pain. Please stay strong for yourself. Keep what is important to YOU in mind. He has to want to change, otherwise, there is nothing you can do besides stand up for yourself and your family. Some people just aren't capable of getting out of their own fears and horrible coping skills, even if it means losing their family.

Thinking about you, AI. Positive thoughts and prayers for peace for you.

AI, you're in my thoughts. I hope you are finding freedom in your peace today, and enjoying the little moments. I know plan B has brought me a lot of peace, as the chaos slowly subsides. And the kids and I appreciate each other on a whole new level.

Good afternoon AI. I hope you are staying strong. The more I accept that I CAN'T MAKE my husband choose our marriage, our family, over his desires, the clearer things become. I even got to the point, at least choose our children. Love your children!!!! I am really just realizing the depth of how much he isn't capable of loving his children to do this to their family!!!! But, you know what else? He doesn't love himself either. They give in to these things, don't face it, don't own it, don't work on it, don't change it, b/c it is easier not to. You can't make him value himself either.

So, value YOU. Value your children, yours and their futures. Hitting rock bottom, you not holding him up, cleaning up his messes, holding it all together for him should wake up up a little, if not a lot. He is going to have to face some hurts to wake up from this selfish, prideful, fog!!!!

Positive hope and energy sent your way AI. Have a great day.

AL. This is exactly what he wants...

We will be here for you if you change your mind.

Hi AI, I hope your are still reading your thread, please keep checking so you can see you have the support of the MB family, you are not alone. Until you feel safe to post again, know you are in our thoughts and prayers.

AI,

I'm hoping that until your husband really gets it that you and your children are able to get the protection you need. Let us know if we can do anything to help. Don't forget also that you can contact Dr. Harley directly, through his radio show.

AI, still thinking of you, and hope all is well. A person as controlling as TRT can be dangerous and I hope you and the kids are safe.

Yes AI, you are in all of our prayers. Stay safe. Keep your head held HIGH. You did all that you could. You can't control someone else's actions, and TRT just wasn't ready to earn his F.