w and I had 3rd seesion tonite and it went pretty well. We started talking about why we can't talk. Counsellor got us started and we started talking about my hang ups and how w inhibits me. It went pretty well I thought.<P>W still all over the board about us though. She is talking more about coming home AND working on the marriage as opposed to just coming home. But then 5 mins later says I shouldn't have to change just to please her and I should go find someone that I can enjoy my life with.<P>She says she is enjoying being alone and maybe thats what she should do with her life.<P>She did acknowledge that she may be having a midlife crisis but wasn't concerned about it. She said maybe the affair while wrong really has helped her see what she wants in life, but then questions if she is just running away from reality.<P>She is becoming more liberal with her speech patterns(swearing more)and talking more about sex. She did compliment me on my style though !!!!!!, but said my approach could use some work though.<P>She did tell me that om tells her he still loves her. She says that while that may be true, she doesn't want any part of him as she sees him for what he really is. Still it doesn't make me feel any better.<P>I think when it comes right down to it my w got bored with our marriage and tired of my personality and the om was in the right place at the right time and the affair happened. I guess now she has to decide if she wants what she had or does she think she can do better.<P>I'm workiing on my problems, I just wish she would work on hers. She is not seeing another counselor and says she won't go the any sex counselors.<P>I guess all I can do is hang in there for now and see how things go!

Keep working, rwd. Look how much you are learning.<P>As as long as she's going to counselling with you....well, what I wouldn't give for that!!!<P>Hang in there. You never know what might be around the corner.<P>Lori