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Re: i think i believe her
MrNiceGuy #2654106 08/07/12 03:13 PM
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MNG, I didn't see your post before it was edited, but since it was edited by a moderator I suspect it had something to do with chastising board members who see the red flags and are trying to help this coupe.

I just felt the red flags could have been brought about alot nicer ... in a more non DJ MB kinda way. I didnt say it that nicely though.

MNG

This is a sick joke, right? Do you understand that the OP called well meaning volunteers on this thread "vipers?"

Yet you chastise board members for not being "nice" enough? faint

Are you on narcotics?

"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt

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Re: i think i believe her
MrNiceGuy #2654107 08/07/12 03:17 PM
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Originally Posted by MrNiceGuy
I just felt the red flags could have been brought about alot nicer ... in a more non DJ MB kinda way. I didnt say it that nicely though.

MNG

Trying to straighten out other posters is a disrespectful judgment by the way:

"In the final analysis, disrespectful judgments represent an effort to force our spouses to give us what we want in marriage, but it's often cleverly disguised. Instead of making an outright demand, we present our problem as if it were really our spouse's personal shortcoming. We try to "straighten out" our spouse in an effort to get our way.

At the time we rationalize our disrespect by convincing ourselves that we're doing our spouses a big favor, to lift them from the darkness of their confusion into the light of our superior perspective. If they would only follow our advice, we tell ourselves, they could avoid many of life's pitfalls-and we would also get what we want.

A disrespectful judgment occurs whenever one spouse tries to impose a system of values and beliefs on the other. When a husband tries to force his point of view on his wife, he's just asking for trouble. When a wife assumes that her own views are right and her husband is woefully misguided -- and tells him so -- she enters a minefield." Disrespectful Judgments


"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt

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