Hello

I posted on surviving an affair awhile back,and got some great advice,now the divorce has been finalized,instead of trial,we had a hearing to settle the divorce without trial,with both our lawyers an agreement was made and settled,dissolution of marriage will be signed at the end of month.
Why am i posting again?
I got some great help in the other forum,it helped me through one of the worst times of my life,it answered questions that i couldnt seem to answer myself,so now i have a few more that im a bit stuck on,ive talked to my lawyer about it,but it is difficult to vent to him as he is going by the law.
1> WW,had all her ducks in a row,im sure she had been planning this for at least a year and had met with a lawyer prior,she had all documentation that i was unaware of..
2.married for 3 years,no bio children,we were together for 10 years prior to marriage.
3.the settlement was 50/50 community debt,now here comes my questions,as i need to get this off my chest,
WW taken a loan out on her 401k of 2500 during marriage,i am responsible for half,WW keeps the house as sole and separate property,i moved out in march,
WW had credit card bills totaling 20,000,i now am responsible for half of this debt,she introduced accounts that i had used funds to restore my classic car,total was 12000,also 12000 in tools i need for work,this was during the marriage,what it boiled down to was WW wanted the car and or sell it,split the profit 50/50,true behold i almost dropped to the ground,as WW had got a hold of my appraised value of the classic car totaling 78000,this car was purchased by me before the marriage,what i was told was that the value of the vehicle had increased by use of community funds thus she was entitled to half stake in that property,again this is my only asset i have.
I am rambling and i apologize,long story short,final agreement:
1.WW get house
2.I have to pay a lump sum of 4000
3.i have to pay back half of her 2500 401k loan
4.i have to pay back half of accumulated credit card debt
5.Taxes have to be refiled,split the outcome 50/50.WW filed in feb without my knowledge,WW had taken all my files and documents for the taxes,no straight answer but it is estimated she received over 5500 in tax returns,she is unable to account for the money,judge ordered her to relinquish documents and refile...
Why do i have a gut feeling i got railroaded by this Woman?
How is it after only 3 years of marriage she was able to get all this and i end up with basically nothing.
I have been told by many i got off scott free,to take it and never turn back,yet i still have this feeling i got the shaft big time.
Any comments welcome...Thank you all again.

You did get railroaded ... courts work like one big wayward. The only way to fight it is to pay a ton of money and expose this during discovery and trial.

Never negotiate with a wayward ... they are bound to come out on top.

Yeah, you got a bit of the shaft there. She went after your car which you have an emotional attachment to in order to get her way on other items (house, debt, etc.) You're right, it sounds like she planned it out pretty well and got you with a little bit of divorce psychology 101. That said, you don't have kids (child support), you're not paying alimony and the debt will be paid off in a few years if you tackle it with a plan. It'll set you back a few years but it's entirely recoverable. And.... you won't be married to a wayward who wrecked your entire world. Priceless.

Travis

It's over.
Be thankful you didn't have kids with the lying, cheating woman.