Here is the card my youngest got for Mom’s bday on Thursday. She’s only 8 (my daughter that is )<P>On your special day,<BR>I just want to let you know that I appreciate having a mother like you and that I love you very much.<BR>Happy Birthday<P>On it she wrote;<P>Happy Birthday Mommy, I miss you, I love you mom.<P>The O in “On your birthday“ is big. She drew a sad face crying in it and wrote “Dad” underneath.<P>------------------<BR>Prayers & God Bless!<BR>Chris<BR>For relationship info check out <A HREF="http://www.pcisys.net/~chriscal1/resources.html" TARGET=_blank>www.pcisys.net/~chriscal1/resources.html</A>

That's enough to make a grown man cry....

Oh, Chris.....<P>Lori

tears welled up when i read that.<P>bless you and your kids, Chris. You are an inspiration to all of us.

Ouch!!<BR>i know what you are feeling.<P>This morning my w couldn't come and help our daughter with her hair, we were out too late and she had things to do this morning !<P>So anyway, my daughter asked ME to take her to get her hair cut after school today.<P>I told my w this, and I could her her slump.

Chris -- A hug for you and the girls.

Oh Chris, my eyes filled up for you. <P>It makes me feel like a whiny brat to hear what you are going through while I wonder whether or not to forgive this fine man who woke me with a kiss.<P>I just prayed for you "May the grace of our Lord be with you, now and always may you stay blameless until he comes." I know how hard it is to keep on doing good while seeing no result. I had to Plan A for 18 months while he denied everything, even in the face of receipts for condoms and phone records. Don't give in to sadness or despair. There is cause for joy in every day.<P>RWD: Is there a female family member or 'safe' female friend who you can get to teach you some of the 'momma' things your daughter needs? By the way, leave-in conditioner spray like 'no more tangles' makes life easier for little girls with long hair.<BR>My dad used to do mine, but he had to be taught how first. <P>YOU CAN DO THIS GUYS<P>"I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength" 1 Cor. 10:13<P>I found it very helpful when the months dragged on and the affair continued to tell myself this over and over. <P>Come here to cry, but then find strength for the next challenge. And remember my favorite promise from Isaiah 61: 1-3, <P>"He has sent me to bind up the brokenhearted, to proclaim freedom for the captives (I think the betrayers are captive to their lusts) and release from darkness for the prisoners,<P>to proclaim the year of the Lord's favor and the day of vengeance of our God (He gets to take revenge in His good time--we don't!)<P>TO COMFORT ALL WHO MOURN, AND PROVIDE FOR THOSE WHO GRIEVE IN ZION (you and your children, and many others here),<P>to bestow on them a CROWN OF BEAUTY INSTEAD OF ASHES, <P>THE OIL OF GLADNESS INSTEAD OF MOURNING,<P>AND A GARMENT OF PRAISE INSTEAD OF A SPIRIT OF DESPAIR.<P>They will be called Oaks of righteousness, a planting of the Lord for the display of his splendor."<P>I JUST WANNA BE AN OAK, don't you?<P>I'm going to pray for you again, cause this week I'm able to see beyond my own little universe and care about others.<P>LIZZIE<P>------------------<BR>When you go through deep waters and great trouble, I will be with you. Isaiah 43:2<P><BR><p>[This message has been edited by Liz Smith (edited November 03, 1999).]

So sorry, Chris. I cannot even imagine the intensity of the pain when innocent children are affected.<P>My God give you the strength to get through this. I pray that He help your little girl, too.<P>Take care, & give her a big hug for all of us.

{{{{{{{Chris and girls }}}}}}}<P>Big Hug<P>Kat<P>------------------<BR>Each and everyone of us is deserving of a kind word, a gentle thought, and the gift of understanding.

Chris,<BR>I feel for you. Watching my girls go through pain would be more heart breaking than even my own.<P>You are a great dad.<P>------------------<BR>Faith, Hope, Love Remain,<BR>but the greatest of these is Love.<BR>1 Corinthians 13:13

Chris,<P>It is OKAY, that your daughter was able to express herself. This is OKAY. It is sad, and I'm sure your wife won't appreciate it, but that is her problem and not yours.<P>Your daughter needs a big hug for her honesty and love in picking out that card.<P>Sending her one from me.<P>Cyber hug to an 8 year old in Colorado, who misses her mother but loves her anyways....<P>(((HUGS AND KISSES)))

I second TnT....<P>{{{{{{{{Another hug}}}}}}}}}}<P>B

<BR>You're doing great things, Chris. Somehow, someday, I'm certain you'll be blessed beyond your ability to comprehend right now.<P>Slightly Sane<BR>

Hi Chris -<P>Must have been heartwrenching...I have tears myself!<P>I am glad to see her express her feelings though. The counseling is helping....hope it gives Donna a little kick you know where!!!<P>Hang In There and here's some HUGS for all!!!<P>Sheba

Chris:<P>I don’t post to you every time, but know I read and most definitely <B>think</B> of you whenever you post. Often even when you don’t. Every day I hope for some sort of resolution for you; of course the one you pray for. <P>The card was amazing. It may annoy Donna, but those are your incredible daughter’s true feelings. Both your kids are pretty amazing, and they’re lucky to have a Dad with so much love in his heart. <BR><P>------------------<BR>Resentment is like taking poison and waiting for the other person to die

Chris, that is so sad. I wish I could see your wife's reaction to the card. On second thought, maybe I wouldn't. I'd be too tempted to slap her if I didn't see tears!!