How to Treat a Knifing Victim

So, you plunged a knife in the back of the one you swore to love, cherish and protect. Nothing you can do to take it back; the deed is done.

Once you see the wrenching pain in the face of your unsuspecting victim, you have an important decision to make. I see three basic choices:

1) Stop what you�re doing. Withdraw the knife, show it to your victim, immediately tend to the wound you created and dedicate yourself to aid in full healing. Vow to stay away from knives forever and � oh yeah � keep your hands where everyone can see them from this day forward.

2) Finish it. Drive it deep, twist hard, pull the knife and let your victim bleed out as quickly and mercifully as possible. Loudly proclaim �justifiable homicide� based on years of abuse you suffered at the hands of your victim.

3) Once your victim reacts, panic and stop plunging the knife. Don�t pull it out, but don�t press it any deeper. You know there�s a wound, but if you hold the knife in place, it won�t look as bad or bleed as much. If you hold it in place long enough, maybe the wound will heal with the knife in place and both you and your victim be will okay.

You walk along with your victim, holding the knife in place while trying to distract him by offering your free hand, assuring him you didn�t mean to hurt him and mean him no harm in the future. As you walk along, running into obstacles (like truth; and triggers), the jarring effect drives the knife a little deeper.

You feel terrible for the pain caused by the continued freshening of the wound, but assure your victim, �If you�ll just be still, and quit running into obstacles, it won�t hurt and you can heal with this knife in your back.� Over time, the knife works its way deeper and deeper, with the victim in a perpetual state of pain and shock. Finally, either the knife is jarred home, creating a mortal wound, or the victim slowly, painfully succumbs to invasive infection.

As others filter in to wonder at the demise of your victim, you deftly remove and discard the knife, disavowing any prior knowledge of the grievous wound, swearing that it�s self-inflicted.

If you find yourself a victim, pray to Providence that you�re blessed with a person that employs the first choice. Or even the second.

Your WW as with other WW are more like a kid to young to be playing with a knife. What eventually happens they cut something they should not have.

Or a kid playing with a match. Harmless until the burn down the house. There was no intent to burn down the house but they got in over their head.

But analogies don't always convey the story well.

Your WW as most went after some extra fun. She re wrote your marriage history to justify her PA. She further justified that what you don't know won't hurt you.

Making all these false assumptions your WW as other WW's justify their actions and have a PA.

Lying, stone walling, trickle truthing, are all part of the WW wanting to not push the blade deeper then it all ready is into her BH's wound.

L, SW, and TT are used by the WW to keep her from falling onto her own sword. A WW having an affair with the OM is very painful for her to face after dday. To silently admit her wrong to herself is not as painful as to hear herself saying out loud to her BH. That is a higher level of pain for her.

Every time the WW tells a fact about the affair she falls on her own sword each time.

Not saying who's pain is worse. Both are being subjected to great amounts of pain talking about the affair.

Your WW had an affair thinking that a dday would never come and all this pain for you and her would never happen. Yes your WW was living in denial.

Some WW's never get caught. Your's did.

You know and understand your need for the truth.

Your WW only sees the need to stop the both of you from bleeding.

Though she is only thinking short term. If she could see long term that the wound will never heal and the bleeding won't stop because the truth is the only thing that will clean the wound. Have you shared this last paragraph's idea with your WW?

Last I don't see the need for you to start another thread.