I've been contemplating the upside of divorce all week. I guess my W could feel it. Today, she left this message on my voice mail at work. I wanted to share it.<BR>_______________________________<BR>"Hi Honey, I know that I may not always say it , but I just wanted to let you know that I love you very much, and I am very, very happy that you are my husband, and that you stood by me through all my weird and crazy feelings and moods and...everything."<P>"I do love you optimist, and I don't know what life would be like without you and these babies..of ours. I just need you in my life honey. Just be patient with me and be patient with us. We'll be where you want us to be. We'll have the kind of marriage you want. We just need to get over some of these obstacles we have coming ahead of us....just with me being pregnant...and all these hormones are kicking...I'm extremmly down...and it has nothing to do with you or daughter....<fade>"<BR>___________________________<P>Maybe things are better then I thought?<BR>

It certainly sound so <P>It's a difficult ride, optimist. And even when they decide to give their best to recommit, there are still many ups and downs.<BR>It's so difficult to let go of someting than in some way became important to us ( even if it's wrong ).<BR>But your w seems to be trying and thinking about you . Please keep this message in your heart and rememeber about it even if things go a bit down again.<BR>She is trying. It's just difficult some times on both sides ( us with the hurt and the painfull memories, then with accepting themselves and what they've done, and getting out of the messy situation).<BR>But I see it working time and time again, when there really is an effort on both sides.<BR>Have a happy day <BR>Kat<P>------------------<BR>Each and everyone of us is deserving of a kind word, a gentle thought, and the gift of understanding.

Hey I just posted a reply! How come it says 0?<BR>Let's see what it says now.<P>------------------<BR>Each and everyone of us is deserving of a kind word, a gentle thought, and the gift of understanding.

Optimist, I am jealous.<P>As Kat said, keep this message in your heart. While things may be difficult and not going the way you want, just try to remember that you wife does love you and is making an effort, and so are you. <P>Good luck, and I am very glad that you shared your message. Not only for you, but also because it raises my hopes for my marriage as well. You and your W are in my prayers. <P>Joe