Brain, no I didn't. Neither of us will be contacting OW again.

My H's written note is for me. School has started. He's got lots of free time on his hands. Up to him to do something good with that.

Old yucky OW is thankfully out of our lives. H has no interest in contact with OW. After 10 months of her leaving us alone (completely :cloud9:), it would be poisonous to send her a letter and let her know that either one of us was thinking about her.

NC is in effect with OW after that horrible scene she made last November, in front of her friends and coworkers, yelling at us in public about H and me being together, watching our son play his guitar in our local bar. OW was thoroughly humiliated. I told her, quietly, off. She inivited me to the parking lot if I wanted to say more (had nothing to say). B!tch is a lot bigger than me. H has nothing more good or fond to say about her.

5 Years Later:

I crossed the Rappahanock River today for an entirely different reason than I rode across it 5 years ago today, October 16.

It only hit me hours later that today was that day, because everything is so different now than it was then. Recognizing this later, realizing recovery has occurred, was once unfathomable.

To see my H now, its hard to believe he was ever wayward in any shape or condition. My spouse is POJA, my ally. Who'da thunk...

Congratulations! I haven't read your thread, but I'm glad that you guys are following the POJA.