I have noticed that waywards often forget the fogbabble they speak. They often make ultimatums that they don't execute.

I am finding that it's best to ignore the literal fogbabble, and instead interpret what I'm hearing as expressions of hurt and loss.

In the past, I have held on to fogbabble and used it as "ammunition" in arguments months down the road. My WW and ex-gf often didn't even remember saying it, and bringing it up caused them great hurt and pain. (It's also a violation of Disrespectful Judgments.)

I am finding the best response to fogbabble is to respond with, "I am so sorry for the hurt you are going through right now. I am feeling the same pain as I watch the hurting you are experiencing." Then I hunt for a way to meet one of WW's ENs.

It's hard hearing this stuff. I am finding that writing it out in the thread wayward piehole thread is a great way to put the fogbabble behind me, and view it on the context of the stuff other waywards have said. This stuff NEEDS to be put in the past and needs put out of my mind.