Thanks everyone I'll look up the IG info and I'm in the house now and I will be in my bed in the next 2 min. Please I hope this works I'm so desperate to get my wife back so I can focus on her needs like I used to.

Good man!! Is she there? What did she say when you came home?

And whatever you do, DO NOT TELL HER ABOUT YOUR EXPOSURE PLANS, ok? This has to be a huge surprise.

You're back in the house already? I'm impressed. I assumed you were no more willing to listen and believe us just yet than most BHs on this board.

Well she said I'm getting comfy and it's against the rules but that's it. I really think she stopped talking to him. I'm leaning towards bugging her computer and then going to the IG if I find contact. Tomorrow I'll stay here tonite again but thursday I have to go to the field I'm military too, I'll be gone till Sunday. She works 3rd shift so Sunday is her day off and the first time we will be in the be together asleep. I wish I would of done this sooner thanks fellow MBers

Bravo!

You can not go to the IG and hope NC exists, or you can go to the IG and ensure NC exists.

What's so difficult here?

I would definitely bug her computer, but I would also report this RAT to the IG so they can issue a no contact order. This will scare him off for good.

A good keylogger is eblaster. You can get it at the same wed address I gave you before. The eblaster keylogger will email you reports so you only have to have access one time.


Did you not tell her you are staying?

BINGO! The affair should go on his record. Reporting it will help ensure he stays away for good.

You have a unique set of rules to play by here that most aren't privy to. Don't think, just do. All the thinking has been done for you.

You said this.....

If this statement has any authenticity whatsoever to it, then what we are telling you to do should be no problem.

We all realize just how traumatized you are (and we all feel for you), but the thinking has already been done for you. All you have to do is do.

Now she talking about me violating rules and crying cause she had to leave the OM which happened 2 days ago and she claims she loves him?! I know I shouldn't be show anger but what should I do ignore her? What should I do stand tall and firm?! Is this normal after an affair ends?

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Thanks I'm going to enact plan get my wife back now. Wish me luck and I will be posting a lot so don't be angry with me. I'll be looking forward to Sunday!

Just let her know that you are home to stay! And tell her you are sure sorry she is so upset. Don't fight, cry, plead or get angry. Just be calm and realize you are dealing with a falling down drunk. She is high on her affair. So your job is to kill the affair.

And then tomorrow, expose the hell out of the affair. Contact the OM's fiance, his IG, and all your wife's family members. Exposure will blow this affair up.

You are going great, my friend!

Ignore it, it's just the fogbabble like Brainy posted to you above. Essentially, drunk talk.

Concentrate on gathering intel and getting your plan together for the IG and others. In your case I would focus ALL my attentions on the IG. This will kill it dead. You can bet on it.

But, while you're doing that, get your butt into an [censored] kicking Plan A....carrot style.

You don't want to just show her what you are capable of taking away from her, but what you are capable of providing for her.

She's fallen out of love with you right now. That is what it is. Accept it.

But you can get it back.

And be sure she doesn't find this website. You need to keep this resource secret for now.

Ok so I will start Plan A when I get back from the field. Will she be resistant at first? If she is ignore and keep it up? I know I lost her because of neglect at what point should I hug her or even touch her? Will flowers or a card suffice?

Whoah ... DSC .. your doing a fantastic job! Back in the house already? I think thats record time here ...

Good job man. Be firm .. and assertive. Almost like Dog Whispering. Dont let your emotions make your decions. Keep to the plan and listen to the vets. You have a great chance here.

MNG

Some more background information on WW her 1st relationship ever was with my stepson's father and it lasted 4 years and was really physically abusive. Prior to coming here I have had 3 angry outburst with her and punched a wall when she told me about wanting a divorce and me snooping on her Facebook to find out about the OM. We been dating/living together for a year and married 4. The OM was arrested for sex acts with a familial child march this year. He told her his ex wife convinced his eldest daughter that he molested her. I did a background check on him and found out it wasnt close as the OM says. He told my WW it was closed in April. He has 3 kids with the ex wife and one with the fianc� and is a campus police officer. I tried contacting the fianc� to no avail via facebook should I send her another message? Where can I find steps and ideas for plan A?

What are plan a and plan b