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[*]Wife's EA at work has been exposed, eventually got her to admit it
[*]She's agreed to leave the job
[*]She had a new job, but it may fall through
[*]She won't stay at her current job, cuz then I will end things, but won't look for a new job if the current offer falls through
[*]When she's with me on the weekends things are good...
[*]When she's at her job things are insane...
[*]I'm at the point where (and have tried this once or twice) to say just stay where you are and let's split up....
[*]She won't agree to this, but she's giving me a total attitude about leaving her job, it's a HUGE pay cut. My position is that this was a great opportunity but you made decision that require you to leave....
[*]I'm running in fumes and are thinking of just saying screw it... Our marriage has been a LONG crazy ride for a lot of reasons, hers, mine our kids.... our youngest is 18 so.....
[*]She's agree to go a counselor and we have an appointment in a few weeks
[*]This week is week 1 of a two week notice....
I'm dunno, can somebody throw me a life line or make some sense out of this... It just seems the elements, me, my wife and anything else that can possible go wrong IS ADN WILL CONTINUE TO GO WRONG. It seems that even if we were in agreement about making this work life would just crush us....
Last edited by Capt_Crunch; 09/18/12 11:22 AM.
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Stay on your thread! 
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Was she with the OM at the job this whole time, and are their other co-workers who supported or encouraged the affair?
God Bless
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Two options, leave the job or move out.
If she moves out:
Step 1: Continue with Plan A. Sounds like exposure has already taken place - great! If any family or influential friends still don't know, tell them.
Step 3: After a suitable Plan A, go to Plan B.
If she quits her job:
Step 1: Send NC letter.
Step 2: Implement extraordinary precautions for both of you. Part of this includes her being honest with any family or close friends who don't already know.
Step 3: Begin recovery.
Step 4: If she balks at any point, consider Plan B.
Of course there's lots of information to go along with each of those steps, but that's a brief outline of where this needs to go.
A smooth sea never made a skilled mariner.
~ English proverb Neak's Story
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