Strongly agree.

I wouldn't fire her solely because of your jealousy. I'd fire her because she sounds like an awful employee. If it were my business, I wouldn't want someone working for me with such inept character traits. She's most likely talking to all the male customers in that way, including the married ones. Professional is the goal, not trashiness; sounds like they need some new training material.

I agree, her level of professionalism is about zero. I think she has just decided to get through life off her good looks and men's drooling tongues. I'm four years younger than her, and by far way more mature. The difference in the way I spoke to her, and the way she responded ("not like I was riding him in your mercedes.") Who talks like that to their BOSS's WIFE!) She was drunk but she was trying to stir up trouble thinking that my husband wouldn't have said anything to me about her being in my car. (My husband is VERY honest, at times WAY too Honest but I do have trust issues as well) Who does that? Tries to cause a HUGE fight between their Boss and his Wife? I don't know .. immaturity/stupidity overwhelms me.

We do use POJA's. We have some in place ... No female friends, no female facebook friends, no porn (though he does watch but rare)

I'm just going to ride the wave out (she's there for another couple of weeks). My husbands days off were yesterday and today and we haven't heard anything from her. So that's good news he came home Sunday and said he really made it clear to her.

FatSammyLove,

What is the point of an extraordinary precaution if it's not being followed and you're going to just "ride it out". Again, a sign that you guys aren't actually following MB advice.

And why do you keep avoiding my remark which points out that you're using another alias? Because if a lot of these well-meaning posters knew about the rest of the saga between you and your husband, they would be offering you very different advice.

I can't help but wonder if you are avoiding that disclosure here because you don't want to hear what people will say when they actually know the back story. Or is this just supposed to be a rant? Accurate MB advice cannot be given when you are being deceptive about the entire situation.

'Trust issues' Hmm. I seriously urge you to read up more on MB.

Dr H encourages us not to trust our spouses. He says he does not trust Joyce entirely and she does not trust him entirely. They are both aware they are each only human. Humans get flattered. Humans have affairs. Humans lie.

This concept you have about 'trust' being an issue is in my opinion the most worrying thing you have said.

Trusting spouses, or those who try to be, are usually completely ignorant of their spouses weaknesses. And we all have them.

Answer this, please.