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So, any better today?<P>Did you write the closure letter? Did yu give it to OM? Have you told your H?<P>How are you holding up?<P>-- keystone
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What can I say? I'm still hanging in there. I did send the letter by e-mail. No, husband does not know. I just chose this route. Time will help.
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Sorry to butt in but I've been wondering how you were doing.<P>Keep hanging in there. You know what to do. You're strong enough, I know you are.<P>Lori
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Any response yet? When's your H returning to town?<BR>-- keystone
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Susan,<P>I think I am getting confused. Your H knows about the affair with OM, right? Does he know of your continued attraction to or withdrawl from the OM?<P>If the answer is yes to all of these questions, then let him help you. People want to be needed especially spouses. Let him help. It would do both of you a great deal of good. I know it is hard to accept help from people but think about this.<P>If the answer is no, then I would suggest that you be honest with H. He needs to know what he is dealing with. It will hurt him more later if you withhold this information.<P>You said he was trying and you are trying. Why not try together. It could even become fun ![[Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com]](http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/images/icons/smile.gif) .<P>God Bless You and Your Family
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<BR>When I discovered W's affair (8/1/99) I told her that I wanted to see an email from her to OM with me on the CC line. Never happened. She CLAIMS that she ended it. I've asked her about every 2 weeks since then, but it still hasn't happened.<P>Why? She doesn't want it to be over with him. This is her way of preventing an absolute break between her and OM.<P>If you really, truly want your H to help you and be on your side, there is not a more perfect opportunity than right now. Talk to him. Work on a letter from BOTH of you to the OM.<P>Slightly Sane<BR>
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Thanks all for wondering. Yes I got a response to the closure letter. OM said it was the most painful thing he had ever gotten. Hubby is home and I guess all is well.
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Susan --<P>Hopefully the OM got the message.<P>Now, get back to rebuilding that trust with your H. I know that you said you did not want to include him in the closure letter part. Is now the time to let him know what you've done -- breaking off from OM? It may show him the sign that he needs to support his efforts in reconnecting with you. It shows a positive effort toward regrouping the two of you. As a betrayed, ANY positive efforts, ANY signs are appreciated.<P>Okay, enough of the lecture. Chin up and keep a good thought...<P>e-mail if you wish<BR>-- keystone<p>[This message has been edited by keystone (edited November 03, 1999).]
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