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I realize I earlier voiced my concern on the wrong forum - the What's for Dinner forum in this category. However,someone suggested creating a new pos, so this is it.

More than probably any of you who may read this, I was one who looked the other way until just recently. So, contributing a few cans or packages of food here and there or dropping a couple of dollars in a jar at the local food store pretty much sufficed as an excuse that I helped feed the hungry. As long as they didn't live next to you or near you, those in need were pretty much invisible. And, my escuse was we all have our problemds - I can't be deterred from my goal

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My first experience with a beggar was when I was 18. I was leaving my job at McD's when she asked me for money. I told her I would take her inside where I was sure my boss Francis would give her work.

She didn't want work.

She just wanted free money.

I moved to LA, and came across many more beggars. I gave them cigarettes. They were happy.

I now spend considerable time in downtown ATL. Lotsa beggars. I give them nothing.

Because I know how they got there, and I know beggin' ain't the way to get out.

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The previous single mother on public assistance who got removed from the program for not taking advantage of it.


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Originally Posted by Tom2010
However,someone suggested creating a new pos, so this is it.

skeptical


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Divorced 12/2011




Many a good man has failed because he had a wishbone where his backbone should have been.

We gain strength, and courage, and confidence by each experience in which we really stop to look fear in the face... we must do that which we think we cannot.
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for those even looking had to break off my post to meet with my son. will have to continue tomorrow.

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Tom, what do you want the result of this thread to be?

If it was to raise awareness of the problem of hunger in this country, I would suggest you research and present here statistics on its prevalence.

If you want a consistent "program" of grass-roots nature to possibly take hold here ("Sign up to donate three cans of food per week at your local food-bank!"), you should define that.

Tom, hunger in America is NOT a hot-button for many otherwise caring, empathetic folks, because the underlying suspicion lingers that "hunger", as portrayed above, is a beard for a need to gather finances support to other, less worthy pursuits. If you can offer evidence to counter those beliefs, you would be doing a service to bring it here.

BTW: Happy Anniversary of V2 (convened 11 October, 1962) to You!

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Originally Posted by Tom2010
I realize I earlier voiced my concern on the wrong forum - the What's for Dinner forum in this category. However,someone suggested creating a new pos, so this is it.

More than probably any of you who may read this, I was one who looked the other way until just recently. So, contributing a few cans or packages of food here and there or dropping a couple of dollars in a jar at the local food store pretty much sufficed as an excuse that I helped feed the hungry. As long as they didn't live next to you or near you, those in need were pretty much invisible. And, my escuse was we all have our problemds - I can't be deterred from my goal

It's very noble to assist those in need and I commend you for doing so.

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Originally Posted by Tom2010
I realize I earlier voiced my concern on the wrong forum - the What's for Dinner forum in this category. However,someone suggested creating a new pos, so this is it.

More than probably any of you who may read this, I was one who looked the other way until just recently. So, contributing a few cans or packages of food here and there or dropping a couple of dollars in a jar at the local food store pretty much sufficed as an excuse that I helped feed the hungry. As long as they didn't live next to you or near you, those in need were pretty much invisible. And, my escuse was we all have our problemds - I can't be deterred from my goal

It's very noble to assist those in need and I commend you for doing so.
I agree.


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Tom, as a tribute, and very belated thank you to you, bride and I just prepared and delivered a complete Christmas dinner to our parish hall to be redirected to a local needy family - with a note saying it was from "Tom and Char".

Merry Christmas, friend. I hope your new ministry provides continued comfort to you.


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