I'm a country music fan and one of the stars, Jason Aldean, was photographed kissing and touching an OW this past week. He went on fb and Twitter yesterday admitting he "messed up", drank too much and the party got out of hand etc. He also said he left the party alone but what he did was wrong.

There have been previous rumors about his fooling around, so I'm assuming his "sorry" is more about getting caught, but hope I'm wrong. Anyway, he'll probably never see it but I commented on fb that he should check out Marriage Builders for help for himself and his family. Maybe other fans will at least see my comment and benefit from it.

I don't see how any of these stars remain faithful with the lifestyles they live. Always out on the road alone, women throwing themselves at them etc. At least in country music, the fan base tends to support fidelity and doesn't like hearing this type of thing.

Priorities I suppose.

It has been said that Paul & Linda McCartney spent 10 days apart in their 29 year marriage - and those 10 days were when Paul was in jail for possession of marijuana.

I'm actually related to a country music star, an old one.
I think most of them are alcoholics, addicts and depressed or bi polar

The Internet changed everything of course. They used to e on the road all the time. Now they can sing in California while someone in new York watches live from their cell phone.

Since marriage builders I do pay more attention to the sex scandals. I like to read how they address them

That's all you need to know.


The lifestyles of the high profile are not really conducive to marriage or fidelity.

Shall I repeat Dr. Harley here? "We are ALL wired for affairs."


I've seen many people argue against this, or some outright deny it... but, the number of times a wayward shows up with the words "I NEVER thought that I would..." lays it out there perfectly every time.


"Just because you decide to become vegetarian, doesn't mean the barbecue stops smelling good."

Stay away from the grill.

Even your idol was a POSOM. He was cheating before he married his OW Linda. He was engaged and cheater on his fiance to be with Linda.

All of the Fab Four were POSOM's.

Linda knew that they will cheat with you they will cheat on you.

All sweet little POSOW Linda was doing by going on the road was to keep the other POSOW away because she knew what her POSOM/H was capable of.

One thing to like their music, another to hero worship people lacking in morals.

The Road,

I don't recall saying that Paul was my idol or had any sort of hero worship. I don't even own any of their albums, I'm 28 and only occasionally listen to what is on the radio. It was just something that I heard.

Your post leads one to think you assumed they were not guilty of cheating. Now knowing your age is 28 means that most likely you have not heard that as the beatles hit it big the dumped their old sweethearts. I guess they thought they needed to trade up to match their new status back then.

Yes you passed on an example that spouses as Dr Harley states that spouses should have jobs that cause them to spend their nights apart.

However you used cheaters as examples. In the future try not to select cheaters as examples of following positive MB behavior.

So? If they weren't married, who cares? Judging by the fact that he stayed married to Linda for so long, seems like he made the right decision.

According to MB, Linda was NOT a "POSOW" just because she got together with someone's fiance.

Agree. But it is not according to MB, but according to reality.

Wonder who in the world Jason Aldean is??

I was curious about this, so I did look into it - it seems Linda was not the "POSOW", in fact it was another girlfriend that he cheated on his fianc� with.

Sorry TheRoad, but I simply cannot equate what happened in their early 20's when he was dating someone to their nearly 30 year marriage with children.

Having been that ex-fianc� myself, I would in no way really consider his now-wife a "POSOW", we were just young and IMO handled things badly, and we changed as we aged. If we are going to compare two young people dating to a long-term marriage with children, I simply cannot. Zero comparison to my ideas of wedding bells to him and the actual commitment to my husband and our two boys.

And as I said, that has nothing to do with hero worship or whatever. I cannot profess to know the exact details of every celebrity marriage as an example since I am not both parts of the marriage. But I will say that Paul & Linda were a good example, sorry, even if you disagree due to his prior cheating with another girlfriend (... who was apparently not Linda but a Francie? So, I don't see how Linda is a poor example here, even if you disagree with what Paul did).

Can I look up to a cheater? Sure. I look to posters such as GloveOil and HerPapaBear. If perhaps Paul had cheated on his ex-fianc� with some girl (not Linda), and married another woman (Linda) and had a long-lasting, apparently committed marriage, then why is he any different?

And if they ALL dumped their sweethearts (... I assume that means girlfriends, not wives & children?) when they "hit it big", so what. Maybe they hadn't dated 30 people yet and should have anyways

Agree with Alis. It is ridiculous to equate an engagement with a marriage. Sure, it's not nice to cheat on someone when you are engaged, but it is not infidelity.

When in an exclusive relationship and to cheat, to have an affair, to be unfaithful is still being an OP. It still is wayward behavior.

The source I read was that Linda was the OW when he was engaged. She went on the road with him all those years because she knew that she cheated with her that he was capable to cheat on her.

She viewed him as her property and did not want to make it easy for another cheater to steal him the way she did.

And if you are cheated on during engagement, then you can just drop the offender no problem. As I've heard it said, they'd have failed the interview.

Yes they failed the job interview because they CHEATED.

Again, so what? This seems to be a sensible course of action, totally in line with MB. Good for her.

That's exactly what I mean, TR.

I meant to say, it's easier to let someone go if they cheat during the interview, than if they do after they already have the job.

Sad to say, many BSs find that they overlooked early failures in the "job interview."

Good for her being a cheater so she knew how to keep POSOW from stealing from her what she stole from another.

So your words mean that possession is 9/10 ths of the law with relationships as well as property. So according to you it was good what she did.

A little to flexible on your morals.

So TheRoad, what is the point of anyone trying to "survive an affair" here? Let's say Paul DID cheat on his fianc� with Linda (not convinced - the ex-fianc� apparently said she caught him with a different woman).

He married Linda. Should he have divorced her and split the kids? Or should they try and maintain their marriage including such "EP's" as not spending the night apart? Maintain their family? Why is it OKAY for the posters here to try and recover their marriage, but when someone like Paul tries to follow marriage-friendly principles, he's wrong?

I was cheated on. Not by my husband. That boyfriend has since married. If they have a happy marriage and children, should he leave her because of what he did to me??? Of course not. Should he be allowed to perhaps regret what he did, and make a VOW to not do such a thing to his WIFE? And then follow those vows?? Does that make him dishonorable??? Not to me. Sounds like a young person who just learned their lesson and decided to change. What's wrong with that.

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