Are you there,If you please reply.

Well you need a job and a new social circle.

So you will be very busy creating those things. Making it happen.

It's an exciting new chapter for you.

hm thats right.His friend told me that he and his wife living saprate since 2 years he dont know they talk or not..

well i should forget all this not to talk..


yes i am searching a job..

yes you are right,his wife may be trying her best to make her mariage work,i can understand her as i faced the same.

Now I wish for them to have peace in life and everything be perfect soon for them.there marriage will work i pray for them.

I'll sourlynrecover soon as my god is with me..

Let me tell you what may very well be occurring in his marriage:
He is an alley-cat adulterous husband. He has had women before you. His wife found out and told him to get out. He moved out and is currently living with one foot in each world: his married life, where he sees his wife regularly (don't believe that he doesn't) and his swingin' carefree adulterous lifestyle, where he has his women on the side.

He's got a tidy little set-up there, Jais. Or he would be divorced. That business of staying married for the sake of his family is all noble, and is baloney. He's not divorced because he doesn't want to be. Or he would be.

I am unable to deny bluntly,dont wana hurt him (whatever he did)Because i cant hurt anyone,I cant see anyone in pain and never because of me.I made him feel that I m not thinking about future together with him or i m not intrested.

I messaged him:"talk to your wife and talk regarding patchup not breakup.Everything will be fine soon in between you both.Just try"...Find her no. If you dont know.

Okeedokey. You've done all you need to do with him, Jais. Now change your cell phone number so he can't contact you again. Eliminate all avenues of contact with him.

Yes, you got it. The best way to not hurt him is to not have contact with him. Letting him commit adultery is hurting him.

People who want a divorce...get one. It's that simple.

This is 100 per cent true. Otherwise his wife would have divorced him by now. He keeps her hanging on in hope.

When he says the patch up 'would have just happened' - what he means is that he has never tried to MAKE it happen and he never will. He's a freeloader using his separation as a license to cheat.




Dont give married men marraige advice. That is a poor boundary. Particularly a serial, unrepentant cheat.

You should tell his wife.

he knows my place and he replied withh a big laugh

He laughs because he does not respect you. Unfortunately, because he met you at a time when you were very sad, this vulture sees you as easy meat.

Tell him you will treat all unannounced visits as harassment and you will call the cops if he shows up at your place. That he will be in real trouble if his wife has to bail him out or if the cops contact her.

If he ever does show up, dont answer the door and if he makes a nuisance of himself make good on your threat and call the cops.

After telling him to stay away from you change your number and email.

I dont know his wife,where she is and whats her no...

If i would have known,I would already have done something like that...and will be able to get the exact situation.

Because you haven't changed your number. Change your number RIGHT NOW. It takes 5 minutes.

Sure, he laughed. Because he doesn't believe you - and you have given him no reason to believe otherwise.

Unless, of course, he's the kind of alley cat who is living a double life, where he is home with his wife and she's clueless about his other women. I seem to recall Jais mentioning that they had been seeing each other for six months, and she hadn't been to his place OR met his family. The chance is good that he's telling Jais that he and his wife are separated, but he 'neglected' to tell his wife that.

he replied Like i have said something funny..I felt Like he replied with the words "good Joke"

CHANGE YOUR NUMBER.

all of this is not that easy....:(

Jais,

A married man who plays on women does not have respect for them. You give him "marriage advice" like he is some sort of friend who respects you - he does not. I'm not sure what sort of response you expected from him. You realize that you are very unlikely to be the only woman he has done this to, right?

AS A WOMAN, DO NOT EVER GIVE 'MARRIAGE ADVICE' TO A MAN AGAIN. You understand that this is how you are meeting this kind of trash? Because you are letting them know that *YOU* are the kind of woman who will open up to them.

And if you haven't spoken to his wife then you have no idea what his 'status' really is. There are plenty of cheating partners who have friends that help them with lies. It's been done over and over again. Honourable men do not maintain friendships with pigs like this man.

I would bet that this wife has no idea she is "separated". It takes one quick browse of the SAA forum to see that many betrayed spouses had no idea they were "separated".

Feeling frustated,restless,cheated,people made fun of me.
hurted a lot,
played with my sensetive heartand feelings

resstless restless resstless,A lot paaain,uncontrolable emotions and feeling...lot many things

Okay, take a few minutes to cry.

Now STOP. Straighten up. Wash your face and refresh your makeup. Look at yourself in the mirror and vow to youreslf that you will take better care of yourself in the future. That you will not be blindly trusting some man with a shady background. That you will remain on Marriage Builders and read EVERY ARTICLE on this site to become versed in how to have a faithful relationship with a man. That you will touch base with us and let us know how you're doing so we can help you if you appear to be drifting into the 'dating ditch' with the wrong man (honestly, Jais - a lot of this could have been avoided if you'd checked in with us. We could have flagged you long ago on this character's questionable behavior).

But before you do any of that? Yep - CHANGE YOUR NUMBER.