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#2671938 10/07/12 07:20 PM
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I've read the post on poly Testing.

What is the reason you give the questions 2 days before the test to the testee? Does it build anxiety? What???

Is it sufficient to ask something like, "Have you ever had sex outside your marriage"?




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Originally Posted by Bookgal
I've read the post on poly Testing.

What is the reason you give the questions 2 days before the test to the testee? Does it build anxiety? What???

Is it sufficient to ask something like, "Have you ever had sex outside your marriage"?

It is their amnesty period. You are giving them a last chance, before the poly, to come clean. You can ask them a whole list of questions at that time but at the poly you are limited to 2-3 key questions. But you don't tell your WS which questions you will be asking at the poly.


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Thanks ML.

(Your posts usually make me laugh...need that!)

I misunderstood.

So, I list all my questions, and the H answers.

Then the list goes to Mr. Polygrah Tester and he asks the 2-3 that I have set aside for the test.

But, I thought they weren't supposed to be specific. As in, have you had sex with So and so skanky-one.



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Originally Posted by Bookgal
Thanks ML.

(Your posts usually make me laugh...need that!)

I misunderstood.

So, I list all my questions, and the H answers.

Then the list goes to Mr. Polygrah Tester and he asks the 2-3 that I have set aside for the test.

But, I thought they weren't supposed to be specific. As in, have you had sex with So and so skanky-one.

Your questions should be very specific on your list to your husband. The polygraph tester will help you formulate the questions for the test.


"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt

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