I don't want solutions. I am already committed to what I am going to do. I just want to read how other people managed and the success they enjoyed. That's all. It is good to hear the testimony from those who traveled down your road.

Without an effective plan of action, it's unlikely that you will achieve your objectives in life -- and that's particularly true of marital objectives. Yet, marriage is an area of our lives where effective planning is often regarded as unnecessary. Couples usually believe that they should be guided by their instincts whenever they have a conflict.
Regarding emotional needs in a marriage, most spouses believe that couples should do for each other what they "feel" like doing. If there is no interest in meeting a particular need, it should simply go unmet. The idea that a spouses should create a plan to become experts at meeting each other's most important emotional needs, whether or not there is "interest" in meeting those needs, seems to go against marital intuition.

Intuition also prevails in most couples' efforts to resolve conflicts. Instead of resolving their marital conflicts by creating and implementing a well conceived plan, they revert to their primitive instincts -- demands, disrespect and anger -- to try to resolve their conflicts. These instincts not only fail to provide them with long-term solutions, but they also destroy the feeling of love. Because couples don't know any better, they keep using demands, disrespect and anger to try to resolve their marital conflicts until their love for each other turns into hate.

I would love to read any situation where a wife left the home and returned back home and all is well now. Either from the husband or the wife. If this is you, please post your story. Please. Thanks.

No sleep. No food. Miserable. My wife does not want to work on the marriage AT ALL. She has disconnected herself from me totally. She has told every pastor and friend that she does not want the marriage. She won't even agree to be in a room with me for any amount of time. How can I eat after this? How can I sleep?