So why are you putting wife up in hotel? Couldn't you just offer to take DS since she is homeless, and if SHE refuses to give him to you, let that look bad on her? If you demonstrate you can support her in this way it may hurt you in the long run. Do you have a lawyer? What is your legal advice at this point?

My lawyer told me it would look bad if I took him so she said to get the hotel and keep receipts of the hotel. If I were to let her go to a shelter it would look bad as well. I hate doing it this but that's the legal advice. Meanwhile POSOM in his home 1000 miles away living peacefully, I really hate this situation I hope this wont hurt my plans because I would like to reconcile but legally I shouldn't have any legal repercussions.

Where stands the hearing and decision, DSC?

Well I got granted temporary custody of DS! Got another continuance due to the fact they transferred he case to the wrong judge and the judge today had too many cases on his dockett. WW was crying and so forth she called me and stated she wants to give me fill custody and her affair isn't worth all this. Apparently the IG contacted her command about th adultery. She is rock bottom now I believe and is rethinking her life I guess. I hope she realizes the problems and damage she caused our family. She is staying with my sister while she is here for court and such.
My sister said she will talk to her about the state of the marriage I also made it clear that I didn't set this up for her! That my sister is doing that on her own! Personally I want her to come back and reconcile because she wants to not because its convient. I have t heard from her since the court date this morning I don't know if she is talking to POSOM. I think she is though I don't have confirmation other than her word she isn't. I think that loser realized after the IG contacted his command that S..t got real and backed off of my WW. She also said she is going to seek psychiatric help and read SAA. I told her don't tell me anything just do it! She saying the right stuff but I seem 0 action! I'll pray for her and hope she sees the light but till then ill focus on my son and myself. SS still with MIL and I don't know what WW plans are regarding that thank you all and god bless.

Wonderful news about your DS

Great news DSC! Thanks for updating us.

Well I'm happy I have DS. Got intel that WW is going to see POSOM. I'm so mad and happy at the same time. Happy I have DS and mad that she is planning this while our family is in shambles. She plans on leaving the 26th. My question is should I confront her, I don't know what to do. Really need some advice on this.

What did her command say would be the consequences of her continued contact with OM?

How did you find this out?

Through some snooping I got the iterinary (sp?). I'm not sure of the consequences her command told her but I'm sure it's severe. I'm going to show up at the airport with DS have him tell mommy bye and let her explain why she feels the need to hurt our family so much for an A with a POS. At that point she has a choice to make leave or stay. I give up trying to understand how a mother can lose custody of her son and keep the other with her mother who doesn't care about her and spend money to see another man while she is married! How can you fathom thinking about lust when the 3 important men in your life are suffering because of your actions?! Any xWW help me with this? Is this a good plan to have?

Another thing that baffles me is her father did the same thing to her mom; abandoned his family to pursue women and drugs. You would think that growing up knowing that you wouldn't repeat the same mistakes or try your HARDEST to fix your marriage/relationship when you realize it. ARGH! I hate this and I hate this person that is my "wife" and this POSOM that society calls a man when he doesn't deserve the privilege to be called one!

I really feel for you DSC. You are so strong. Just focus on the fact that YOU are getting stronger and doing the best you can, and pray that you continue along that path. You have your precious son back!!! YEAH!! Focus on him and your lives now. The hardest part is not being able to control the other person so they don't do the things they do, so they don't destroy EVERYTHING!!! You can see it, but she can't, and because she is her own person, you can't control her. Awful, isn't it?!!!!!! I hope you can put her "aside" right now, bc you have a lot of work cut out for you to make sure that your son is safe and secure emotionally in all of this. I would think that doing that while you are emotionally crushed right now is enough to keep you busy for a while! You are soooo fortunate to have your son back. Now you can protect yourself and your son from her actions.

Great update on getting your son!!! I wouldn't bring him to the airport because that would just upset him, and he needs to be your focus now, not your WW. There is nothing else you can do at this point to get her back. So keep your son in your mind, and don't do anything that would make this worse for him, it's bad enough what his mom has done.

Forward it to their commands.

ITA with BH...forward it to their commands. The military does not like this sort of thing and having OM/WW being IN the military is the greatest gift--for your exposure and chances at ending the affair.

Let's see how much OM likes being suspended or possibly even kicked out.

Forward it to their commands.

Absolutely agree! You are fortunately provided with an ally in the fight you're in DSC - the United States Armed Forces, which has the power to compel adherence to a code of behavior, denied to the rest of us. Do not be too proud to use such assistance.

Quite perfectly, I'd want the MPs to be at the departure gate enforcing the "stand down" order!

Oh I did that but I'm not sure how it will help. His command and her command are doing an investigation (they are in different units). WW was supposed to have left to see POSOM in FL by plane today but out of the blue yesterday she called me and claimed she canceled the flight and isn't going. Do I believe that, hell no. Do I hope its true? Yes but the odds don't favor that. She still hasn't agreed to R so I am going into a very DARK Plan B. WW hasn't signed divorce papers either and doesn't have a lawyer. I have hope for my marriage but at this point its, whatever. WW was crying and saying I have god on my side and I will my way. I told her I want my family and its not my way its what is right, plain and simple. Reading the stories on here about others plights and how they were overcome by sticking to the PLAN A AND B made me even more hopeful and deteremined to ignore her foolishness and fog babble and carry forth! I am determined and strong enough to stay the course! Thanks for your advice everyone, I am off to spend time with my DS! God bless! Updates coming soon!

Do not take any more calls from her if you are going into Plan B.

Let the command do their investigations. Let her sit in the ruin of her own creation.

The name changer!!!! hehehe

Yea since my WW so fit to leave town to see POSOM when she doesn't have custody of DS and SS. I decided to change my name to reflect how my Plan b should go. Also, I told her about SAA and if she reads and has a break in the fog she might come to the site. Don't want her to see my thread until she has realized her mistake. If she is reading this: Hi, I'm here trying to save our marriage get on board!

You mean you have SS as well? Or was it that she left SS alone?

SS is with MIL in Puerto Rico, DS is with me. I believe she is FL with POSOM. It's crazy I know and I find her behavior to be very unlike her which is normal for WW I assume