Im 26 and have been dating my fiance for a 2yrs, He is 32 and has an 8yo son from a previous relationship. Lately im starting to feel like i cant breathe with him, he can be very intense, if we are out with friends he will keep looking at me, If a guy casually talks to me and im being polite back he comes over to me pulls me away & accused me of flirting with the guy, When i tried to tell him i wasn't he just stared into my eyes and told me to behave myself. We both have full time jobs & get home around the same time and when i get off the subway all i want is a shower and to chill out but as soon as i get home he is all over me coming up behind me holding me telling me how much he missed me then he usually starts to feel me up which leads to sex, the other night after the guy was talking to me when my fiance and i made love he started to slightly choke me, I freaked out & asked him to stop. Its like i cant move but he is there and his hands are on me in some way. Yesterday i had a day off and woke up after he'd left for work, he came back home at lunch time saying he couldn't stand the fact that he hadn't made love to me since the day before. I love him to death but he is driving me crazy lately.
We mostly fight after we've been out with friends, He doesn't like when i dance with my girlfriends & says im putting on a show & acting like a slut for other guys, it gets very heated that i try to hurt him with words and he'll hold my chin, put his head level with mine and stare at me, When i push him away, he'll push me against the wall & then he'll punch the wall and leave but when we cool off we love each other so much. We always had a pretty fiery relationship but i love him so much, My bff says that we are 2 people who love each other but don't belong, we know how to push each others buttons. I have started seeing a therapist what she told me was that, he acts the way he does because he does not trust me (or other guys around me) and is wanting to let everyone know especially in social situations that i am "his.", that he has issues separate from our relationship but the relationship itself triggers him & that he believes if he can wear me out with alot of sex, i won't stray. With her help im starting to see how childish & stupid i was acting with pushing his buttons to get a reaction. I've also just found out im 8wks pregnant but havent told him yet. Any advice on what to do?
