Can you contact this woman's husband and let him know that this danger is present in his home? Your husband has no qualms about destroying his own marriage; he is a danger to any married couple.

It is especially concerning that he is spending hours alone with a woman whose husband is away. Do their marriage a favor and inform her husband so he knows and can address the danger.

So, today unfortunatelly I met him for a few minutes because we had to sign smt for the divorce. Its being finalized on Monday. He seemed very depressed and all (yuk!). I know he still fantacizes about the amicable D.

So, when leaving on the road I put my hand on his shoulder and said:
So, my buddy, I wish after Monday I'll never need to speak to you or see you again for as long as I live.

The end?

I'm not sure0 what your plan is Faith. Your post doesn't sound much like Plan A.

Do you mean B?

No, in Plan B there wouldn't be any conversation at all,

Maybe it is plan the End?
Maybe it is plan I'll never forget seeing you signing this paper?
Maybe it is plan no matter if you are an addict you could at least show for once that you tried?
Maybe as you said Indie, it is plan I deserve better?
I am so sorry for my weakness

Maybe, like I said I don't know.

Sounds like Plan FU.

I don't know how much more I'll be in this forum, so I need to pay a tribute to some of the people here. You girls (and guys) are awesome. Some of you are the kind of women that any man would be proud to have you by his side. We make mistakes. We are only human. But have you found a way to learn from mistakes! To expand and deepen the human understanding. It goes beyond the education offered in a few books. You opened a new world for me.

I do not think the same applies to me. I was not the person that could give that much. Not yet, but I will get there.

But for some of the girls here, even young ones, this kind of wisdom and empathy, may be gained the hard way, but makes one think that the only reason your guys could not stand up for you is that they realized you would be better w/o them. I would kill to have someone with your high emotional IQ and inteligence as a friend, lover whatever. It is their loss. In the name of love for one person, a temporary, often false feeling they are going to lose life.

Maybe they did you a favor. We only live once.

Come back if you ever want to follow the plans.

I fear you will get lost following your own feelings.

But, up to you.

There's a lot of truth that we can be freed and better off from our wayward spouses and the misery and pain they bring us. Sadly, we are also deprived of the chance to have a wonderful, fulfilling marriage. Personal recovery is a great thing, but it is still less than the ideal.

I was having conversation with a coworker who's marriage ended in infidelity, about would it be ever worth risking our hearts again. No answers to that yet.

Maybe you could move your thread to divorced/divorcing and keep working on personal recovery...it's a day by day journey.

Yes it is day by day in your journey, and not the ideal way to spend your life, alone that is..

But I would rather spend it alone with truth than be with someone and it all be lies, manipulations, where you sit on the edge of your seat wondering when it will all crash and burn.

I have found that I can be a close friend, and it still does not have to get into sexual tensions, a long time ago in my youth and vitality days. Yeah being a friend so I can ...Nah didn't need it that bad. Guess I took the word friend more serious than most..Just such a foolish game...

Again it is better to be alone..than to give into foolish behavior, that keeps you hurting yourself, because your not respecting yourself, because you/we/us feel like we are so different

The differences in us is what makes us unique, as also our experiences do.

We are alone anyways, even when we are with someone.

Being alone with our honest and true friends can be very healing, and you can count on them to give you the truth.

The liers? the cheats? Who needs them?

Amen!

How do I get past the disgust triggers that my DD brings everytime she describes what she is doing with him, her room in his house, how she is getting sometimes a better time with him because I don't seem to enjoy playing as I used to. I don't want her to mention him but of course she has to.

I broke it guys. I mean plan B. After an especially stressful day at work, full of DJ made by a male coworker who is well known for his rudeness I called him and asked him why all of them don't find someone else to f* off this year. That they should find another target to f* other than me if they were men enough . That I've had enough already . (Where are you Never Guessed?) He replied blah blah blah. So sorry he was. I need to get out of this town.

Just don't talk to him again
Did you feel better after yelling at him? If so then it was worth it.

You know you shouldn't have broke Plan B.

What are you going to do next time you want to tell him to F*** off instead of breaking Plan B?

Post here?
Talk to a priest?
Talk to my mom?
I think I have exhausted my friends!

Exactly, friend, come here and vent to the board.

Did you really expect him to see the light?