I have installed eblaster on my computer at home because I know in the past my husband has had secret emails and late night inappropriate discussions with people he has met on the internet. All was going well and there was nothing on the reports that I was receiving until last week.

We are both members on a weight loss site as we do have some extra weight to lose. Last week I see that he has logged onto that site and was visiting only profiles of women in our town that we live in, no one that we know however. I thought that was strange but I let it go thinking maybe he was looking for motivation. Then the following day he is messaging women that if they are looking for a work out partner in the afternoon he would love to get together. Meanwhile, me, his wife and someone who he should ask to be his workout partner is left unasked.

I know I am going to get blasted by people on here but I did something that I cannot believe I did. I created a fake name and profile and said I was located in the town we live in. Immediately he sends me a friend request. He was then sending me (the fake me) emails from that site all day on Friday being very flirty so I flirted right back.

The emails did not go through the weekend because we were out of town camping. On Monday, however, I get a message from him giving me his work email address so I am not emailing the home address. Meanwhile he has cleared any trace of email from his home email and his fitness page's email.

Things then took a turn for the worst and he was inviting me to do a hard work out with him and asked me for my picture. It was early in the morning so I told him I was still in bed even though I was at work. He said that I could take a picture of me in bed and send it to him and asked when we could get together to meet. I told him that I really did not know him that well since we only talked a couple days. All the while he was flirting hard and insinuating things. He then asked me yesterday for my phone number so he could call me on his way home.

Again, I am asking for advice and am prepared to be slaughtered for stooping to this level. Please help me out here. He even emailed me early this morning with an email address that I did not even know he had which means he just signed up for a secret one again.

JEF, regardless of what others here may think, I think you're awesome!

Your husband is aggressively trolling for an affair. I suggest you contact the moderators and have them move this thread to the Surviving An Affair forum, or at least to the MB101 forum.

Be aware: 1) he may be onto you and playing around (counter-espionage); 2) when confronted with it, he will certainly say he knew it was you the whole time.

Move this thread. Won't get much traffic here.

Well thank you for saying you think I'm awesome. At the time I did it, it was on impulse and I thought it was brilliant, but now not so much and I know some on here will be judging me in a bad light on here but I did not start this. I am faithful and not looking for another man.

I will see if I can get this moved.

I thought about the fact that he may know it's me but I am not sure that he does. Regardless, his talking to other women always starts with a new secret email that I know nothing about, it starts with one and always leads to more contacts. I have a quick temper so usually when I find something out I immediately blow up and confront him with it before giving anything a second thought. As hard as it is for me, I am playing it cool and not saying a word.

Keep your cool. You won't be able to keep this up for long, because if the pictures, phone calls, etc, don't materialize, he's gonna smell a rat.

Contact the mods and ask them to move this thread.

How do I contact a mod?

I think you click the "Notify" button at the bottom of your post. I'm not very "Forum" savvy, so you might have to experiment . . .

I actually just copied the post and submitted in the surviving an affair forum.

I do agree that I can't keep this up for too much longer. Right now I am playing it off that I am a single girl and I just don't give out my phone number and meet up with someone in person that I just met online right off the bat.

Like I said, it was a spur of the moment thing that I did not completely think through and I really need advice. Hopefully it gets seen at the other forum.

thank you for talking to me.

You're welcome. I saw your post in SAA. Help will be forthcoming quickly. Good luck!