It's been a while since I posted or even visited here because I'm going back to school, so I'm kind of busy. <P>Anyway, things have gotten pretty bad with me & H. (Please see my profile for background). To try to recap some:<P>Late 8/99-I overheard a fight between H & OW and it was really bad. (She didn't like that I called H).<P>9/3/99-First 4-way meeting with our attorneys. H now knows how aggressive my attorney is and he doesn't like it. She requested his business books to come up with a maint/child support agreement(H owns his own business). <P>Columbus Day weekend, after H dropped off our son, I called H's apt to ask him something and OW answered the phone. 2 weeks later, my attorney calls me saying H doesn't want to have any contact except through the attorneys.<P>Now, last week he's playing hard ball with the attorneys regarding visitation.<P>I have been as nice as I could be with him but he's just being a B******. I am now at the point where I don't know if I WANT to be married to this man and it scares me. This whole mess has been going on for 1 year Nov 15 and I am so angry now. He is treating me like s*** and I never did anything to deserve it--all I have done is love him and tell him I still want the marriage. <P>I'm not sure where to go from here, but I could sure use some help or advise. How could I possibly continue to stay married to a man that is so mean???????????

Jackie, I'm really sorry things are like that. Your H seem to be completely blinded by the situation he created and it's difficult to keep loving someone that is active in such an insensitive manner.<P>I'm afraid I can't come up with any special answer that could turn the situation into something better.<BR>I'm sure that your H was a different person before the affair and the reason you keep trying is because that person you love, but this new one that replaced him is not very lovable, is he?<P>A big hug to you<P>Kat<P><P>------------------<BR>Each and everyone of us is deserving of a kind word, a gentle thought, and the gift of understanding.