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Sounds good. Little steps of progress much better and more stable than big leaps.
In what way could you mess up? Tackle those concerns head on.
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What would you do if you were not afraid?
"Fear is the little death. Fear is the mind-killer" Frank Herbert.
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I wish I could turn back time....
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She's being so nice I'm worried ill slip up. I meant could you explain these worries?
What would you do if you were not afraid?
"Fear is the little death. Fear is the mind-killer" Frank Herbert.
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all my advice was to keep it simple.
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all my advice was to keep it simple. What are you worries of slipping up?
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Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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Absolutely . We're supposed to talk tomorrow about what we're going to say to the kids
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well, had a great weekend with the kids. But just as I expected she wanted to talk today. She started telling me she wanted a divorce and ive asked her to try a 3 month separation.. I don't know if she will or not, or if she is just going to give me til after thanksgiving. Not too sure what my next move is. If she insists on a divorce should I move back in? I cant just mooch off of my co worker forever. I'm willing to make the arrangements for a few months for a separation. Feeling very lost and need advice.
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should i go back? And if so what do i say? She will be pissed!
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well, had a great weekend with the kids. But just as I expected she wanted to talk today. She started telling me she wanted a divorce and ive asked her to try a 3 month separation.. I don't know if she will or not, or if she is just going to give me til after thanksgiving. Not too sure what my next move is. If she insists on a divorce should I move back in? I cant just mooch off of my co worker forever. I'm willing to make the arrangements for a few months for a separation. Feeling very lost and need advice. Thanksgiving to show you've changed? What were the reasons that she gave you to proceed with divorce?
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Too much damage and she's tired of trying . Don't feel the same.
I thinly til after thanksgiving to see if she's not as angry. She wanted to proceed with the divorce. I was just trying to get a little time for her to calm down
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I really wish I would have started using this site a yr ago
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Too much damage and she's tired of trying . Don't feel the same.
I thinly til after thanksgiving to see if she's not as angry. She wanted to proceed with the divorce. I was just trying to get a little time for her to calm down Is she still as angry? Do you think you should do whatever she asks of you?
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That's what I'm not sure of. I feel like I'm setting myself up for papers. If she insists on a divorce I feel like I have to move back in. This was only supposed to be temporary to give her space. I can't keep mooching off of coworkers if she's done trying.
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Yes she is still as angry
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That's what I'm not sure of. I feel like I'm setting myself up for papers. If she insists on a divorce I feel like I have to move back in. This was only supposed to be temporary to give her space. I can't keep mooching off of coworkers if she's done trying. Is it your house?
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What would be your reason for moving back in?
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if she says shes done and wants a divorce i dont see where i have a choice. i'm mooching off of a coworker to try to fix this but if she insists shes done?
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Im also worried that I cant deposit love units from 40 miles away. How can i get her to fall in love with me again if im not there? If she needs more time to generate some energy ok, but right now that woman hates me.
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