Hello Ladies and Gents.

One year since A and DDay is quickly approaching.

A was 16DEC2012, DDay was 18DEC2012.

WW slept with another man at a Christmas party. AFAIK, it was ONS. Involved drinking, cocaine and cell phone text/picture. All kinds of dirty stuff. Her work was a heavy influence in her poor choices (it actually all stems from her work place).

I set a goal for one year:

1.) No more partying (without me, I don't drink nor do drugs).
2.) Get rid of the cell phone.
3.) New job.

I have item #1 and #2 scratched off. Item #3 looks like it won't happen within the one year limit I have set. WW has been at the same job since High School. Serious safety blanket issue.

I need words of encouragement to enact Plan B. I feel like I might fold. Chicken out.

Can't edit posts?

Correction on the year of A and DDay. It was 2011.

Welcome to MB and sorry for your pain.

Who is OM? Is he married? Does she work with him?
Who have you exposed to?

Please read.
Exposure 101

Not to be curt, but I've been read the riot act, blah, blah, blah. No need to re-hash what was a total crap shoot last time I posted here.

What I really need is encouragement to follow through with Plan B.

Should I re-iterate the three main EPs I have put forth? I gave her a refresher at the seven month mark, which was not well recieved but ended up in her getting rid of the cell phone. She tried to pull the old POJA on the EPs bull, but I wasn't having any of it.

Her job is a doozy, it's like apron string syndrome on steroids. OM is currently dating Co-worker of WW (relationship started post ONS). He knows to stay right the hell away from the workplace. He won't even come into the parking lot to pickup his GF. He's THAT SCARED of me (with good reason).

It might have been the "random" bad things that happened to him (don't knock me, it made me feel better if for a just fleeting moment).

I am still monitoring whether she has a different cell, by going through her car, purse, financial records, facebook, email etc...

I still snoop a metric tonne. All clear so far.

What was your old posting name?

If you're going to Plan B why are you trying to implement EPs?

Are you filing for divorce when you enter Plan B?

No nee for that junk. I already posted that it was a total crapshoot.

She still has some time before I give up on the EPs, then to Plan B. I have been lenient. A different job isn't the easiest thing to find. I live in a small town (very, very, very rural - think Alaska and you are on the right track).

I plan on filling for D, but not before I get the hell out!

Welcome back to MB. I'm sorry you felt your last thread was a "total crap shoot" Most MBers genuinely want to help because we have walked in your shoes. Without the benefit of reading your thread, sometimes you may receive advice that is coutnerintuitive or you may not like, but that advice if given with good intentions to help you recover personally and offer a plan for marital recovery.

It woud be helpful to be able to have more background to be able to offer the help you need. Maybe if you give us a brief rundown we can help and hopefully you will feel comfortable to reveal further details.

Yep. This has been a total waste of time.

I am smart enough to parse what I need. I think I am just going to wing this one since reading comprehension is not a strong suit here.

Catch you on the flip side.

Well kindabigdeal I'm sorry you feel that way. It is your decision as to whether you wish to post. Contrary to your comments I and other MBers I'm sure were able to glean something of what you were referring to, without the benefit of sighting your original thread.

I was not asking you to rehash the "crap shoot" merely provide some details to be able to offer the support you were looking for.

You like anyone can read the general idea of Plan B, but if you want encouragement and support to help you through Plan B, it is helpful to have some details of your situation to be able to offer effective support.

I was hoping that once you started a dialogue you may feel more confident in posting and was trying to encourage you to make a start.

Hopefully if you decide you really want encourage and support you will reconsider your decision.

I wish you the best of luck.

Catch you on the flip side.

Good enough! Shall we pencil you in for next November? Perhaps by then you will have decided to replace the teflon-coated "Joe Cool" persona with one having the stones required to instill within your once-and-future WW the changes to her lifestyle that are necessary.

You are young. And without kids.
This is the perfect time to get out.