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Well why not?
The scumbag is dead so it's not like shes out screwing him.
Eventually your love bank deposits should come to fruition Yes, given enough time and effort by me probably. The kids motivate me also. But what I fear is me though. The danger is I run out of steam or stop caring before this happens. For now, I'm ok though.
Me: BH
Marriage: 25 years
2 kids
D-Day 5 Sept 2011
EA w OM started Fall 2010, PA w OM Spring 2011, OM died end Sept 2011
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Blackhawk,
I don't recall if you ever got a full confession or a polygraph from your WW. At this stage it's like she is holding on to some imagined golden age in her life, and the OMs death has made him heroic.
That your WW still loves someone else means she has no intention yet of recovery.
God Bless
Gamma Gamma, She confessed the day he died, but not everything. The rest I found out by reading their e-mails later. And yes, this memorialization is keeping us spinning our wheels. BH When OM died I thought of it as a huge gift for our marriage. Looking back now, what I thought was a gift seems to be instead a curse. Instead of the guy making mistakes and throwing her under a bus eventually, he is perfect forever in her mind.
Me: BH
Marriage: 25 years
2 kids
D-Day 5 Sept 2011
EA w OM started Fall 2010, PA w OM Spring 2011, OM died end Sept 2011
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