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No I haven't heard from the Harley. I let the mods know.
I told her I was sorry for not letting her know and I knew how thoughtless that was. That it wouldn't happen again when it comes to the kids we still have to be a team.
When she talked about thanksgiving I did get quiet for a second then I just talked to my daughters about how good the soup was
As far as plan a comments I'm not real sure. The old me would have tried to make her feel guilty for planning something without considering me. Probably would have ended with ao.
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Just checked my email and yes they got back to me. Will play til noon tomorrow
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Just checked my email and yes they got back to me. Will play til noon tomorrow So they answered on today's show?
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Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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Yes, sorry bh I'm at work. I just listened to the show. Love the advice.
The problem I have now is she keeps bringing up the ow. I really don't know how to reply. I feel anything I say will just make lb withdrawls. I truly am sorry for what I did and consider it by far the biggest mistake of my life.
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And she is definitely in the state of conflict. She hit me with everything but the kitchen sink yesterday on the phone. Concerning me not telling her what I knew
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Had a decent conversation with my wife. Nothing too serious and was careful to just try to make small love deposits and have conversation. Sometimes I think this is getting harder instead of easier
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Having a hard time fighting depression today. Maybe because I'm on midnights. Stayed in bed all day long. I just can't seem to snap out of it. I just feel alone and hopeless.
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Having a hard time fighting depression today. Maybe because I'm on midnights. Stayed in bed all day long. I just can't seem to snap out of it. I just feel alone and hopeless. Nights are brutal. Are you sleeping ok? How did the conversation with your wife go?
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Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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I feel like I haven't slept in a month. The conversation went better than expected. I just keep screwing it up by sending follow up texts. I sent her one at bedtime that said I hope you can get some sleep tonight. No response so I feel like it was a huge mistake
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Did you get with Harleys?
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I wish I could turn back time....
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I feel like I haven't slept in a month. The conversation went better than expected. I just keep screwing it up by sending follow up texts. I sent her one at bedtime that said I hope you can get some sleep tonight. No response so I feel like it was a huge mistake Why? Did she ask to stop texting? It was showing you were caring for her.
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Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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But is it just a love buster if she's not ready to hear it?
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But is it just a love buster if she's not ready to hear it? How is it a love buster? Did she tell you to stop texting? Saying you hope she gets some sleep is not a LB. Does she start the texting? What did the Harleys tell you to do?
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Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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I'm not supposed to initiate contact at this point. The Harley advice was to make love deposits whenever available and avoid love busters at all costs.
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No she did not start the texting. It was just a random text while I sat in the parking lot at work
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I'm not supposed to initiate contact at this point. The Harley advice was to make love deposits whenever available and avoid love busters at all costs. Ok so if she was texting back and forth you took the opportunity to make a deposit. Texting is a good way to send nice messages. When she contacts you just be very pleasant and upbeat. Say nice sincere things to her.
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Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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So lay off the random texts?
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So lay off the random texts? Did Dr. Harley say to not initiate contact? Random text with nice stuff, I think is fine. How else do you plan to make deposits?
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2nd M for both
Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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