I am so over it. We have been doing the marriage builders online programme.
We did the Disrespectful judgements on Sunday night, I�m so over it!!!!
He didn�t know how to fill it out and said he doesn�t know what to write, I said no one is marking it so just put what you feel down.
I was writing away and filling in what I felt he did and how it affects me etc.. I also put down that his disrespectful judgements have gotten worse as I now try and talk about how I am feeling and he find that in itself a pain in the butt. When I was finished he took a look at mine and straight away said that he thinks I have filled it in wrong. I honestly looked at him like he was joking. But no, he was serious. I then said to him that I find what he just said disrespectful. He then got his form and horribly wrote "always causes conflict" I tried to explain that in the past I never bought up how I felt as he would always get horrible about it and make me feel worse so I want to change that and start to talk about it, he then got his book again and horribly wrote " always bringing up the past"
To be honest I know it is always going to be this way; we are never going to get a nice healthy relationship. I am so over it and have checked out.
We slept, well he slept, I stayed awake all night, in different rooms and the next morning he waited until our son went to school then tried to give me a hug and say he is sorry, he said that he will try better etc but to be honest I don�t even care anymore. I am done. He always says one thing and never follows it up.
For instance...he said that he would finally tell our son what he has done last night, unfortunately he hurt himself and we went to A&E so he couldn�t say anything to him as it was late by the time we got back, but he said nothing about it to me, and I know it will be swept under the mat once again.
When I went to work in the morning he said that he wouldn�t have lunch with me as he wanted me to miss him. WHAT??? Why would I miss him? He is not taking the marriage builders seriously, he keeps saying "I just want to make you happy" but will not try anything different. I am tired of working at a crap marriage, a marriage that is only good if I keep my problems to myself so I don�t cause conflict in his life. I think I have finally realized that he is just cruel and doesn�t want to work at changing; he just wants to "put it behind him and move on"

Since you're doing the online program, have you contacted Dr. H yet?

Yes I have,

What did he say?

I havent heard back from him yet.

Did you post on the private forum?

Just checked to see if my post went through and it hadn't. I will post it again.
Thanks for reply Brainhurts :0)

You're welcome.

Let us know what Dr. H says.

He will be able to see through alot of stuff. Hang in there and you will have some answers soon.