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Yes I do. Like I said, I just hope I can have the fairy tail ending
I wish I could turn back time....
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Yes I do. Like I said, I just hope I can have the fairy tail ending I can't remember, but didn't you write Dr. H? If so, did he answer your question? If so, when?
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Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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Yes I did. I believe it was last Monday. Still struggling to get out of my depression. I thought being around people would help but I think it made it worse.
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Yes I did. I believe it was last Monday. Still struggling to get out of my depression. I thought being around people would help but I think it made it worse. Your doctor just changed your dosage, correct? This can take some time. Is this your question? Radio clip
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Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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Right now I'm at my parents and there advice is that I need to get tough and take control. I keep telling them that's what got me into this. It's just that right now she has my house my kids and my pay check. This forum is about all I got left.
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Yes, that was my question. Thank you for posting it
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Right now I'm at my parents and there advice is that I need to get tough and take control. I keep telling them that's what got me into this. It's just that right now she has my house my kids and my pay check. This forum is about all I got left. I agree. You need to get tough AND TAKE CONTROL OF YOUR BEHAVIOR. Did you tell your parents about texting the other woman and that you are becoming a better man? DR Harley's methods of plan a has saved tens of thousands of marriages. Just stick with the program.
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Yes they know about the OW. I've tried to explain MB to them. I've even e mailed some links. They still say I need to move home. My end goal is to make permanent changes in myself and be reunited with my wife and kids. Not push her further away
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ok, back to my 2nd home and need advice. I just learned from a mutual friend that my wife has talked to a lawyer. As far as I know she hasn't filed yet. Our mutual friends advice was for me to take over the finances and give her what she needs. I really hate to push. She seemed calmer tonight when I dropped the kids off. I told her I still worried about her i still missed her and I still loved her. Her response was I didn't need to worry about her. Just when I thought we were moving ahead I get this news.
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I would not try to take over the finances.
I don't see any way that would help you recover your marriage.
I think you should continue to plan A.
This may be a long time.
You essentially have to win your wife back and look more attractive to her.
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So I think I was able to make a lot of love deposits last night. I dropped the kids off and she called me later because she thought i was upset. We talked for awhile and I was able to tell her the changes I've made in myself and speak to her from my heart about where I felt our marriage could go and what it could be. She said I didn't know how I had made her feel before and I agreed but said I was sorry and would never take her there again. She was fairly receptive. She cried, but not the angry tears she cried before. We hung up and she called me later to talk about the kids. I feel we may have actually made some progress. I pray to god we have.
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Well I wouldn't talk so much about your changes but instead let her see them.
You are doing good and this is a long term project
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I agree. I was really hoping that last nights conversation meant something to her but I haven't heard anything from her yet tonight.
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I agree. I was really hoping that last nights conversation meant something to her but I haven't heard anything from her yet tonight. Keep it up. Be ready for the next time you do talk to her. How is your anger management coming along?
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Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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Very well. Just understanding it helps a lot. I also have a pretty high stress job so I've been implementing it everyday at work.
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The one thing my wife said last night that I don't have an answer for her is she said I made her feel like she was worth nothing and she don't know how to come back from that. All I could say was that we could get past it together.
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The one thing my wife said last night that I don't have an answer for her is she said I made her feel like she was worth nothing and she don't know how to come back from that. All I could say was that we could get past it together. Why does she feel like that? You have to find out whatever behavior you were doing that caused it and stop
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It was in September on one of my rants where I threw divorce around like it was nothing. I'm such an idiot
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Have you taken an anger management class?
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Yes, through my counselor also
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