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I am newly divorced. Using MB principles, what is the conduct for divorced men around the opposite sex? I understand that it is improper to have any time alone or any intimate conversations with married women.
What about single women? Is it acceptable to speak with single women or only if on a date?
I like to go running. Is it acceptable to run with a single woman with no intention of dating or does that Create problems?
The issue of going to gyms was raised in another thread. Apparently Dr Harley encourages married people not to go to gyms. Does this apply to single people?
What EP should single men have around single women?
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I think the first rule is not to rush into anything since you are likely to get into rebound relationships.
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Your post has me scratching my head, because you seem to be a fairly logical person and some of your questions appear to have simple answers. Let's look at your concerns: I understand that it is improper to have any time alone or any intimate conversations with married women. Well, yes. This applies to married or single men. Married women are verboten. They're off the table when it comes to establishing a relationship that does not include their husband at every turn. What about single women? Is it acceptable to speak with single women or only if on a date? Are you really asking if a divorced man can talk to a single woman? Why would you ask this? If it isn't acceptable to talk to a single woman in the first place, how would you ever get so far as to be on a date??? Are you Amish? I like to go running. Is it acceptable to run with a single woman with no intention of dating or does that Create problems? If the woman is not currently seeing another gentleman, I would see no reason to refuse to run with her. This is something you need to determine prior to offering to be her running partner. Similar to back when you were dating, JK. Same thing as when you were in high school/college and were dating. The issue of going to gyms was raised in another thread. Apparently Dr Harley encourages married people not to go to gyms. Does this apply to single people? Nope. It doesn't apply. There are places where single people go to meet other people: bars, church, gyms, etc. Married people need to go to these places together. Singles, obviously, go alone. What EP should single men have around single women? EPs are intended to protect a marriage. You, logically, have no EPs to put in place. I'm not sure what you mean by this question.
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Thanks. I've actually never really dated before. I don't know what to do LOL
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Thanks. I've actually never really dated before. I don't know what to do LOL Well, you are not the only one who has no clue about dating, there seem to be plenty of other posters who have expressed concern about this. Have you read Buyers, Renters and Freeloaders? I have just got my hands on a copy after it was recommended. It apparently deals with dating and what to look for in relationship / partner.
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It takes one year to grieve the end of a relationship. So wait one year before you start one.
Do not rush to enter a relationship.
Do not move in with your GF. That is not a commitment only full time dating 24/7.
As to once the divorce is final it is ok to have opposite sex friends. Use that first year to heal and have fun. Having them will give you the chance to evaluate your judgment system on spotting good marriage material and to recognize the ones to stay away from.
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Caracal. I ordered the book from amazon and should have it any day. I've already read SAA and HNHN
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I also ordered the Art of Manliness book for info on how to dress, etc
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I also ordered the Art of Manliness book for info on how to dress, etc Have you seen this thread started by HoldHerHand? Men's Recovery Thread
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I'll check it out. Thanks!
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I am newly divorced. Using MB principles, what is the conduct for divorced men around the opposite sex? I understand that it is improper to have any time alone or any intimate conversations with married women.
What about single women? Is it acceptable to speak with single women or only if on a date? Ummmm, it is acceptable to speak with single women.. How else will they know if they even WANT to go on a date with you? I like to go running. Is it acceptable to run with a single woman with no intention of dating or does that Create problems?
The issue of going to gyms was raised in another thread. Apparently Dr Harley encourages married people not to go to gyms. Does this apply to single people?
What EP should single men have around single women? Just started running myself this year. Completed 2-5K's, 1-10K, and a half-marathon... =D LOVE running! If you're running in a group that happens to have single women you are not interested in, fine. If you are running alone with a single woman, chances are, she's going to think you like her. If you really aren't interested, you've got to be really honest about it without hurting her feelings. I think a running date is a great idea if both people are runners.. As far as gyms go, I can see why he encourages married people not to go. That said, there are lots of "single" people at my gym, but either no one is interested in each other, or they're too scared to approach anyone. Most of the time, people are in their own worlds at the gym. You said you are recently divorced. How recent? Please take the time you need to heal. It's not a good idea to have female friendships unless you are ready to date again. Just my 2 cents....
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