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#2689532 12/10/12 12:14 PM
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Hello All,

Thought id write in on some very strange happenings after my divorce,you can read back into my previous posts.
As i sat here having my morning coffee i open my email and i see mail from the X..open it and she was asking if i had a blanket of my sons and if she could have computer disks because there is a virus on her computer and would like to have it fixed,yes i know what everyone is thinking,believe me i was a little confused as this was out of the blue.
I fwd it to my girlfriend with the intent on trying to understand what this was about,not thinking clearly my girlfriend asked if she could sent the X an email,sure i thought as long as its a nice one to the point no bantering etc.
Girlfriend sends email to X,very professional stating that i do not have the blanket and computer disks are cheap,in other words not to bother me with petty requests.
I would like to say that the X came unglued,firing off emails to both me and the girlfriend,the anger that came out in this email was a side ive never seen from the X.
The question is,in my mind,X has moved on,I have moved on,then why the anger from the X? I figured she was happy and didnt care about what i did in my life?

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Sound like the wayward has finally hit rock bottom & is projecting all her anger onto you now.

You moved on and you have a new girlfriend.
What did she expect?

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I think you are entering into a relationship too early.
What is your divorce date?

Your wife's affair started after my wife's did.

Who is the girlfriend? Did you date her while still married?

Have you read the book Buyers Renters Freeloaders?

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yeah, don't have a girlfriend reply to your X, that is just beyond....

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In september 2012 apparently
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I posted on surviving an affair awhile back,and got some great advice,now the divorce has been finalized,instead of trial,we had a hearing to settle the divorce without trial,with both our lawyers an agreement was made and settled,dissolution of marriage will be signed at the end of month.
Why am i posting again?
I got some great help in the other forum,it helped me through one of the worst times of my life,it answered questions that i couldnt seem to answer myself,so now i have a few more that im a bit stuck on,ive talked to my lawyer about it,but it is difficult to vent to him as he is going by the law.
1> WW,had all her ducks in a row,im sure she had been planning this for at least a year and had met with a lawyer prior,she had all documentation that i was unaware of..
2.married for 3 years,no bio children,we were together for 10 years prior to marriage.

Edsway #2690169 12/12/12 12:56 PM
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Originally Posted by Edsway
some very strange happenings after my divorce

i open my email and i see mail from the X and she was asking if i had a blanket of my sons and if she could have computer disks because there is a virus on her computer and would like to have it fixed,

yes i know what everyone is thinking,believe me i was a little confused

I fwd it to my girlfriend with the intent on trying to understand what this was about,not thinking clearly my girlfriend asked if she could sent the X an email,sure i thought as long as its a nice one to the point no bantering etc.

I would like to say that the X came unglued,firing off emails to both me and the girlfriend,the anger that came out in this email was a side ive never seen from the X.

The question is,in my mind,X has moved on,I have moved on,then why the anger from the X? I figured she was happy and didnt care about what i did in my life?


Your problem is that you don't think, clueless, both.

It appears your XW is was on a fishing expedition.

So I have to ask what is it you were thinking and how was it confusing?

Then this mail did not concern your GF. Notice the difference between a new GF and your 2nd wife?

This was not the GF business. She had no place corresponding to your XW. Matters between the son is between you and the XW. Not your GF.

Yet you have no problem posting here about how your XW got angry having your GF but in her sons business.

The you close with "I can't figure". I don't think you can figure 2+2.

I doubt you are this dumb because I don't know how you made it to adult hood.

I think that you are the King of Passive Agressive. I'll act all innocent while knowing my act will push my XW's buttons then come here for support to call her out on her behavior.

Sorry to ask do you know were a blanket is for the son is not out of line.

To ask about compuer help is not unreasonable when their is split custody and her computer is used by your son when he is there. You in your rights to not want to help with the computer. But not having your GF do your dirty work.

Some man hiding behind his GF's skirt.

Last edited by TheRoad; 12/12/12 12:58 PM.

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