HI,<BR> I'm new here and I need ALL the help I can get. I've been reading your posts and FINALLY have the courage to post myself. My friend posts here and suggested it. My Husband (well we were engaged) left me for a younger OW. We lived and worked together for 9 years. I met him a year after his W died and we moved in together. He has just turned 60 and I am 58. The OW is 46 and MARRIED!!!! She kept coming into our RE office, first as MY friend then when I wasn't around as HIS friend!! She told us about her bad Marriage. Said she was abused. Her husband was a monster!! Her H found out before I did and made her leave. MY H left THE SAME NIGHT!! And they MOVED into first a motel (for a month) and now a month to month rental while they try and buy something TOGETHER!!! Together two months total.<BR> I have called her H and found out he is actually a wonderful man and is hurting& confused as much as I AM!! <BR> We talk almost every night and compare notes. I'm confused because OW calls her H everyday (he is in plan "A") and (he hardly calls her) When they are together she lets himrub her back, kiss her neck and kiss her goodbye, and they have even talked about "When we get back..." This was a month ago. Now she won't talk about it anymore. OW won't tell my H she calls her H!!! Hides it from him!!! OW calls her H ONLY when my H isn't around!!<BR> I have had little contact with H other than one night he came over and made dinner for us. We have talked on the phone 3 or 4 times in the last 2 months. <BR> He NEVER talks much anyway but tells me to call anytime. I love him and miss him and want him back!! BUT SHE WON'T LET GO!! He can barely look me in the eyes but tells me I can call or stop by anytime!! Any advice? I was MAJOR lovebusting first now want to do plan "A"?? Any advice???? What's going on here!!!!<BR>