OR,

we can just say:

"Oh Dear,

That must be terrible for you.

But never mind,

Eat lots of chocolate,
have a bubble bath
and be happy.

Everything will probably turn out fine."

But that would be truly cruel.

I care far more than to say that when instead I can give the sternest possible warning and plea for you and your children's safety.

Moderators please remove my post.

WS, for a woman who seems to have managed to accommodate her husband's bestiality and (attempted) relations with her mother with a surprising equanimity, you demonstrate an abnormally thin skin during well-meaning discourse with electronically-veiled posters on an anonymous communication board.

Why do you suppose that is?

We tell her that that big honkin' elephant on the sofa IS an elephant, not a kitty cat.

Oh, and it's doing bad things.

But we can't SAY that the right thing to do is to get rid of the elephant! That's just TOO MUCH!

HH not to hijack the thread but I hope when the time comes and it will hopefully soon. That you can be blunt with my WW once she out of fog. Your red flag post was ingenious!

I sometimes get chastised for offering advice that others disagree with. Some posters say that there is no such thing as personality disorders and that your husbands behavior can be stopped if he wants to. My ex wife told me that she suspected an ex boyfriend of having sex with a dog.
I thought she was just imagining things but this does happen.
In the Bible, the penalty was to kill the man and the animal and bury the animal.

I suggest you email the Radio Show and ask Dr Harley for advice.
He has treated more than 50,000 patients and was director of more than 30 mental health clinics.

Regarding your kids, I suggest you separate from your husband (kids stay with you) immediately.
Here is the problem: say he had a bad childhood (and I know people have bad childhoods, kids in Africa watch their parents be raped and killed - but they don't start having sex with animals as a result)
What if he relapses and your kid sees this happen? Then your kid will be messed up FOR LIFE!
Protect your children!

I encourage you to see an individual counselor. And find out why you feel you need him in your life.
Also visit your family doctor and tell the doctor everything so they can ensure you don't have any sexual diseases.
And reach out to your church elders. Don't conceal this. Tell them and ask for advice. And ask family for advice too

Thankyou TD, My dearly beloved calls it a gift for directness.


Gentleness is very important but in

LIFE THREATENING situations

We focus on saving the life /lives involved.

I do hope WeirdStory will separate immediately and give herself enough time and space to be able to see what normal means.

Imagine how much gaslighting has gone on in this relationship.

How. Many. Lies.

I understand WeirdStory wants to help this person.

But it is not possible until perspective and reality is restored.

Don't forget the children whose worldview is being skewed, bent out of shape, crushed beyond recognition.

Of course WS will say that the children know nothing of this but that is just another symptom of the land of make believe in which she is living...

Weirdstory, I have no expertise in this area, but please consider' Alis' posts. Alis has experience in this field and can see the warning signs/behaviours.

I can only imagine how difficult it would be to face this, but given the information you have provided there is a very real risk to your children and it needs to be considered. Wouldn't it be better to face this possibility, have it verified then take any necessary action depending on the outcome.

Please re consider posting you will receive the support to help you through this.