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Ok. I just expose he is committing affair to his female boss. You have to expose to a lot of people at once. Who else can you get to right now? Family? Friends? Call them now
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His colleague knew, but apparently doesn't help at all.
My friends knew, but they say divorce him better since he is such a jerk to cheat on me while pregnant.
My family say leave him since he is not remorseful and still continue affair.
His family rather let him continue his affair.
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His colleague knew, but apparently doesn't help at all.
My friends knew, but they say divorce him better since he is such a jerk to cheat on me while pregnant.
My family say leave him since he is not remorseful and still continue affair.
His family rather let him continue his affair. What do you want to do? Do your friends and family call him and put pressure on him to end his affair? How is it going to find OW's family or friends?
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Amazing, how has your Plan A been? For how long?
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I just expose his affair to one one his cousin.
Still exposing the affair to her student. Busy sending email now...
Even if cannot reconcile, I don want them to say I suffer from post depression, and spiteful etc..
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You are not being spiteful to expose such terrible behavior. If I am correct, this is a shameful thing to be seen doing in your country (more so than in ours, anyway), but that is why it is shameful. You are not supposed to do it.
It is HIS fault and HER fault, for doing such bad things, and if they are shamed then it is their fault. He should have thought of that BEFORE he did this with another woman.
One year becomes two, two years becomes five, five becomes ten and before you know it, you've wasted your whole life on a problem you can't solve. That's one way to spend your life. -rwinger
I will not spend my life this way.
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Thank you.
I agree totally
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Now I still exposing to some of her students.
His side is done.
After that will be go dark right?
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Now I still exposing to some of her students.
His side is done.
After that will be go dark right? Yes you go into Plan B. Were you able to Plan A very much being that he is out of the house? Did you write your Plan B letter? Do you have an IM? How will child drop offs/pick ups be handled?
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Plan A I suppose is expose right?
Pick up of my kid will be at my mom house. I will not appear during that time when he drop or pick up my kid.
If I write a plan b letter isn't it weird since I already fighting for my gal.
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Plan A I suppose is expose right?
Pick up of my kid will be at my mom house. I will not appear during that time when he drop or pick up my kid.
If I write a plan b letter isn't it weird since I already fighting for my gal. Yes Plan A is exposing (the stick part) and also the carrot part (filling WS EN). Carrot and Stick of Plan A Yes still write the Plan B letter so you know you did everything in your power to try and save your marriage. There are sample letters in this thread. How to Plan B Correctly
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Isn't the plan b letter sound like allowing the WS cake eating?
Let the WS finish his cake at the ow side then come back only when he had finish eating?
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Actually, I don't know whether I should salvage this marriage?
He had change so much, and he said that he cannot forget the other woman. And lies after lies.
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Plan B letter is not allowing cake eating.
Cake eating is happening already.
The letter states that you are willing to be a wonderful,fullfilling wife to him
but that you will not participate in his life unless he chooses to be a monogamous husband to YOU.
It states your conditions of a marriage.
If he confronts you about exposure, do not apologize for it nor lecture him about why you did it. Just breathe as he is screaming and threatening you. He will angrily threaten you. That means you did a good job exposing. Expect it. It is tough to watch the tantrum though. Very scary tough.
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The Plan B letter is not cake-eating. It sounds like it, but it is not. Plan A has been you being a good wife (filling need and so on) and exposing, and Plan B is you removing yourself from this.
When you remove yourself from the situation, his other woman has to fill all his needs. He will like this for a short time but then he will see that ONLY she is filling his needs. He wants you both and Plan B will make him see that she cannot fill his needs like you, his wife, can.
One year becomes two, two years becomes five, five becomes ten and before you know it, you've wasted your whole life on a problem you can't solve. That's one way to spend your life. -rwinger
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You all think is it worth salvage the marriage?
Lies after lies...
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You all think is it worth salvage the marriage?
Lies after lies... That, my dear, is up to you. And no one, especially us, will fault you for waking away. We are here to help you, no matter what you decide.
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Sometimes when I see my friends or even stranger kids, they have the love of dad and mom. It make me so heartache that my gal cannot even have a chance to have a bonded family together.
I know I shouldn't base on kid to make the decision. But my baby is so so small.
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But then I think back, the way he lies, the way he blame me for having affair, the way he call the ow "dear" instead of me. He send the ow flower and meet her every weekend.
This will always be in my memory.
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But then I think back, the way he lies, the way he blame me for having affair, the way he call the ow "dear" instead of me. He send the ow flower and meet her every weekend.
This will always be in my memory. This is one of the most tumultuous events that people will experience. We have posters that suffer from PTSD. Please Taj care of yourself. How are you sleeping? Eating? Exercising?
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