Been married for 7 years been together 2 years before getting married. He was deported to another country and I stood by his side. I pay all the bills and support him. I found out he cheated because the person he cheated with contacted me and sent me pictures of them together as well as him with other women (in bed). She hacked into his email and got all this information.... I am truly devastated and I am trying to pull myself together. I love him but I have resentment and at times I get very angry.

Welcome to MB, pain. I am sorry to hear of these events in your marriage.

Are you still living with your H? How many affairs do you know about? Have you any reason to believe his recent affair has ended? What did your H say when you confronted him about his affairs - what reason does he give for having behaved as he has done? How long did these affairs last? Is he still in contact with any of the women?

Do you have children? Do you want to recover this marriage?

Is he from another country - the country to which he was deported? Why was he deported - did he commit a criminal offence? Is there any chance that he married you for immigration reasons?

You need to be tested for STDs as a matter of urgency. Do not let your H near you until he has also been checked.

I have asked a lot of questions, but this is because we don't know what you want after these affairs have been revealed and what you are trying to achieve in your marriage now.

Welcome to MB and sorry for your pain.

Who are the OW? Are any of them M?
Do you have any kids and ages?

Do you want to continue in this M?

Who have you exposed to?
Exposure 101

I know about 2 of the affairs. Recently I found out about the second. He lied and told me he was a friend of a friend. She went to visit him twice in the past 7 years. She contacted me on a social website and send me pictures of her and him. She done back ground check on me and my children and exposes me life on socail networks. Tormenting. He said the affair is over and she told me as well. He had no contact with her; she confirmed it and that is why she is upset and is tormenting me.
I love my husband and want things to work but right now I am devastated. I was checked for STD's and I am all clear. He was checked and is clear.
He was deported

I dont know the other woman but the one tormented me and lied and said I was harassing her (I dont know her) she got a restrainging order on me and had me in court. Of course my name was cleared. I dont understand why she is bothering me so bad. I cant take the stalking. It is draining me. I think she just wanted me to know she was with him. She baggers him now and say's he is horrible.

Did you read the exposure thread?

Who have you told about Your WH's affairs?

Has he written NC letters to these women?

Do your children know the truth?

I just read the exposure thread. One of my friends knows but no one else knows. I really don't have any one to talk to. He has not written any letters. He said he just deleted them out of his life. The children do not know and I try to be happy but deep down inside I resent him.

What are the ages of your children?

What were the conditions that allowed his affairs? Internet? Social networks? How did he meet these women?

Do these women have Facebook? Copy all of their contact information to a word document for later.

My children are from a previous marriage, age 25, 24, 22

The first affair was a woman at the bank. He gave her his number and they started the affair. I found out on a social website because on her page she was his only friend so I sent her a message and told her I was his wife.. she admitted everything a forwarded me all the emails.. he had her in our bed in our home in Jamaica. The other woman he told me he did not know initially, well the truth was is that he knew her since the 90's and they always slept with each other. She went to visit him in Jamaica 2 times over 7 years. I learned of her on a socail website because she again was the only one on his friend's list. That affair ended and she keeps harassing me and forwarding me all the pictures of her and my husband.

I do have the information as well as the dialouge from the emails she keeps sending me.. She keeps threatening to send me pictures of her and him having sex. I dont want to see that. She sent me pictures of women in bed with him. He said they were old and before we met.

I'm devastated

Are either of these women married?

Can you find these women's parents?

You need to expose to his family and the OW's family. You need to have an affair proofed marriage. You need to expose to everyone who will put pressure on the affair.

Keep all your evidence for future references.

Was your WH married before?
Any kids?

Why was he deported?

One of them was married. I dont know neither one personally. The first affair happened during our first year of marriage. This last one was last year. He initially told me he did npt know her. She recently sent me all the pictures of him and her laid up on a beach. She hacked his email and sent me pictures of other women in bed with him. I confronted him and he told me they were before we met. I bee nwit hhim for 10 years and one of the pictures look more recent like the last maybe few years or so.
He has never been married before.
He was deported due to expired paper work, which is getting worked out now.

Some days I get angry at him and feel I just can't do it... but then I think about how much I love him.

Are you ready for exposure?

What can we help you with?

ok, how do I start and will it blow up in my face. This last one is psychotic, she made fake pages and harassed me to the point she fabricated that I threatened her. She attempted to get a restraining order on me which was denied because it was proven it was not me. I had to go to L.A and get a lawyer to defend my name. I am not sure if this will be considered a form of harassment. I am a professional nurse and dont need any issues. She is very psychotic. She is currently harassing me on fb on a fake page...