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I have talked to her about us not assuming we know what the other wants and she is opening up a little.
She actually opened up a lot and told me something that has been bothering her for 3 years she says. She has told me that she doesn't have enough money and that I would never listen. (we have seperate bank accounts) She told me tonight that she has been to scared to open up to the fact that she built up a decent amount of debt.
She said that she has seen that my life has changed and that she wants what I have. She said that she is going to get back to church and wants to live the life that she knows she isn't right now and get back to doing the right things. She seems remorseful and all, but she still seems to act as the only way is to do this on her own.
What should I do to make sure I support her and don't cause more problems at this time? What are her top ENs and what are you doing to fill them? It sounds like FS is one of her top ENs.
FWW/BW (me)
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2nd M for both
Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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It seems that her top emotional need is for me to support her. She says that she needs to change for her (and I agree), but it also seems that her idea of support is to leave her alone and let her do everything on her own.
I understand that I can't fix her, so do I just give it time and be supportive by providing encouragement to her for her desire to make positive changes?
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