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I just wish more pople who have coached with Steve would participate here.
My husband and I coached with Steve and I was NEVER EVER EVER given any advice that even slightly diverted from the advice DR H reccomends.
The problem here isn't Steve's advice is what Falcon thinks he's hearing.
Look at all the posts here and how he responds to them, he picks and chooses responses, he's extreamly vague and changes his story repeatedly.
Example- how many times has he discussed his PC braking down in response to nearly every post he brings up his pc. How many times has he addressed the lack of NC letter issue?? He picks and chooses what he hears, Surfer was spot on when he pointed this out.
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BW 36(Me)
WS 38
Married: 2000
DD1November 22 2008 - DD2 October 2014
PA Duration September 08 - November 08
Second discovery- 6 online affairs 4 sexual one emotional. October 2014.kids: DS 17, DS 14, DS 12, DS 10 . Baby after divorce DS 18months
Divorced
Was misled into thinking we were in recovery for 6 years.
If you were shocked reading any of this, that this is the consequence of not following MB to the LETTER.
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Looking back, I know I mustve been in my own BS fog alittle when we spoke with SH, on the phone for 1 1/2 hours, and I can remember thinking how uncanny it was that SH was so 'the same' with what I had read in SAA.
He laid out a plan, which included a NCL, establishing EPs, the the 4 rules of marriage.
And as I may have stated before, I felt that when I first got on the phone and his getting a 'status check' of our situation, that I myself was nervous about his take on exposure, but really his demeanor or approach indicated he assumed it had already been done as a matter of the plan (as it had) and we were going forward from there.
He only asked when and to whom exposure had happened, and quickly dove into instructions for me and my W seperately at first, then together...
I can't imagine SH -- one who uses the analogy of ripping off the entire bandage at once, or cleaning out the wound altogether -- advocating in DELAYING the necessary step of "wound cleaning": exposure...
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Lost Falcon...maybe he will be back. Makes me very sad.
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I just wish more pople who have coached with Steve would participate here.
My husband and I coached with Steve and I was NEVER EVER EVER given any advice that even slightly diverted from the advice DR H reccomends.
The problem here isn't Steve's advice is what Falcon thinks he's hearing.
Look at all the posts here and how he responds to them, he picks and chooses responses, he's extreamly vague and changes his story repeatedly.
Example- how many times has he discussed his PC braking down in response to nearly every post he brings up his pc. How many times has he addressed the lack of NC letter issue?? He picks and chooses what he hears, Surfer was spot on when he pointed this out. I have counsled with Steve regularly for 15 months and he has never deviated from MB advice to me.
Me: BH
Marriage: 25 years
2 kids
D-Day 5 Sept 2011
EA w OM started Fall 2010, PA w OM Spring 2011, OM died end Sept 2011
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