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I do believe in unconditional love. Why do you believe in unconditional love? Do you practice this belief?
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I'm not saying I won't make waves I am saying I still love my wife. I think God loves us unconditionally I know that he provides discipline but he loves us in spite of ourselves. Based upon this discussion we could be referring to different types of unconditional love.
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By unconditional love I do not mean tolerate everything it could be that we have different definitions of it. Perhaps I will read the article Whats wrong with unconditional love.
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Also I had a nightmare that a married man was telling me about how he slept with my wife and then he told me, "Oh yeah another guy is hitting it too." .
I woke up sobbing and crying like a baby. Perhaps its my selfishness that she gave her virginity to me.
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I'm not saying I won't make waves I am saying I still love my wife. I think God loves us unconditionally I know that he provides discipline but he loves us in spite of ourselves. Based upon this discussion we could be referring to different types of unconditional love. That is not biblical at all. The Christian God does not love "unconditionally." Unconditional love is a disaster for marriage. It leads to neglect and abuse.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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By unconditional love I do not mean tolerate everything it could be that we have different definitions of it. Perhaps I will read the article Whats wrong with unconditional love. Yes you do. Here they are again. What's Wrong with Unconditional Love #1 What's Wrong with Unconditional Love #2
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Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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God does love us unconditionally. The bible says that we are so desperately wicked that we never seek God. It is only when He applies His Word to our hearts that we can be saved from our depraved state of sin.
Yet in marriage we are NOT like God. Husbands are told to love as Christ loved the Church, even as He gave up His life for it.
But in cases of adultery then divorce is allowed. God demonstrated this when He divorced the physical nation of Israel and created the Church Age.
If you are in doubt I suggest you cOntact your pastor or priest.
Were you married In the Church? If so have you notified the Church of the current state of your marriage?
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However God will return to his people of Israel furthermore(rOM 11), adultrey does not mean you have to divorce but that you can. Notice 1 Cor. 7 Paul gives only a seperation or reconciliation option for believers.
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Yes. You do not have to divorce.
But let me ask you. Were you married in the Churvh?
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Still having trouble not thinking about another man having sex with wife. Any help out there! Plz something besides dont think about it!
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Have you notified the Church of your marital state?
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How did the Church respond?
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We are no longer a part of that ministry. Some people tried to reach out to no avail
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Have you exposed this affair to your children?
You need to do so
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They are 10, 6 and 3 do they need to know that?
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The 3 year old is probably too young to be told, I'm not sure. The 6 and 10 year old can and should be told. Otherwise they will think adultery is normal, and that wrong is right, and other such bad lessons.
One year becomes two, two years becomes five, five becomes ten and before you know it, you've wasted your whole life on a problem you can't solve. That's one way to spend your life. -rwinger
I will not spend my life this way.
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I still need to know how she could claim she love me and sleep with another man? She didnt sleep around during our time together just during seperation.
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