Greatly appreciated too Mel.

Really 2008? Well starch my shorts my wife was so far gone by then I don't think she would have been helped in her addiction issues anyways.

She should have went to AA in the late 80s like I asked her too, and her church personnel should have backed me up when I asked them to also..

She was a loss to me and the kids world, and many peoples world, but it had gone chronic by 1999 anyways and I don't know if I could have pulled her back after Vermont anyways..

Se Le vi? (Sorry don't know how to spell it)

But Dr Hs wisdom is still primo to me, and I have been a convert before I ever read a word..It speaks so loud and clear..

But 2008? It may have been to late for her, but its not to late for the rest of us.

The spirit of love and freedom lives on..

I would say that 2008 was the first year the board really took a dramatic turn for the better. Folks learned about Marriage Builders and Dr Harley added to his mission statement that the purpose of the board was to discuss Marriage Builders. No longer were "all opinions equal." And those lovely OW no longer came to visit me. Most of the worst troublemakers and crapwits were weeded out around that time.

So thankful that the boards teach and speak MB instead of their own advice (there's other sites for that).

Greatly appreciate it Mel and others.

BH, in all truth, it has been one of the most fulfilling, rewarding rides of my life!

You know, I totally agree with you. MB has been a saving grace, that's for sure.

BH, in all truth, it has been one of the most fulfilling, rewarding rides of my life!

Oh, Lord! More "cowgirl" talk.....

yeehaw!!!

Been missing you and Prisca a bit. I hope you two are doing alright.

Melodylane and melodylane jr get a room

TR, did you forget your medicine today? And you were doing so well.......

Here's my spiel (watered down).

Dearest Mel, my darling girl ....

The actual exam is easy. It lasts a few minutes. They offer drugs. Accept them gladly. Someone (Your Cowboy) will be required to drive you (happily) home. The preparation is very irksome. It lasts an entire day (depending on the time your appointment is scheduled). Think of it as a weight loss "cleanse". There is water weight loss, and trust me, you will be clean as a whistle.

In my experience, most refusing patients are a combination of:
1. queasy about the test/preparation
2. anxious about the results and rehearse the "What if it is cancer" in their head unceasingly
3. some patients prefer to argue whether or not a test which is proven to diagnose cancer at an early stage is necessary

Facts:

Colon CA is a silent sneak. It is a slow grower who lurks without symptoms for years. NO SYMPTOMS. Sometimes 8-10. During that early stage, it is often completely curable with relatively simple methods. Those patients are followed by increased frequency of surveillance. Like "Spying 101".

The most common colon CA is found in people of both genders after age 50. There are other familial forms which begin earlier. If you have a blood relative with certain diagnoses, you will be advised of the increased risk.

If you (Mel) are in for a routine colon CA screening exam after age 50, and your exam is normal (most often the case), you will not be required to repeat the exam for about 10 years. Why? Because it's a slow grower, remember? If you develop some sort of ominous symptoms in the meanwhile, you need to repeat the exam sooner.

Before the exam you will be fasting and experience the normal hunger pangs of any fasting period.
After the exam you may not drive (whoopee-drugs) but you can pretty much count on feeling perfectly fine otherwise. There is NO discomfort after the exam. You can eat.

If you decide to refuse a colon cancer screening exam, you may very well be fortunate to never have symptoms. If you however do develop symptoms, you will face the fact that if you do have colon cancer, it is much more likely to be in a more advanced stage. Surgery. Chemo therapy. The entire mess. Ostomy bags are not a fun way to go. Trust me, colonoscopy preps are waaaaaay easier.

The 12 months leading up to the eventual removal of my entire colon, I had 4 colonoscopies. I consider myself somewhat a seasoned traveler in this regard.

Choices:
1. Have early colon CA screening every 10 years
2. Risk loss of life if an advanced stage of this slow/silent CA is discovered later

I'm pretty confident they will never diagnose you with prostate CA Mel.

too much crackpipe today?

Thanks very much for that, Pepperband..

I had a colonoscopy 2 years ago to find out what was causing some cramping, and I had to start taking the stuff at about 4 pm the previous day. (My appointment was the earliest possible the next day)

The funny thing is, most likely if you have one, you won't remember diddly-squat. I remember laying down with the gown on and then waking up afterwards. My first thought was pure joy, because the nice nurse gave me a soda. Nothing like being doped up to magnify your emotions.

You'll be a bit sleepy for a while, and personally I had some minor stomach pain for a week or so.

Speaking of cracks .....

Yeah I slept thru mine too,but hey been in O.R. so many times during my life..

It is really easy Mel, and like we can all attest to, no over thinking it.

Get 'er done. Its really pretty simple, but like Larry the cable guy would admit if he had any brains..(Not the comedian the character), Y'all need to see them there professionals..

Uncalled for.

That was my very thought!

No sense of humor.

I assumed you were joking. But then again, you and I don't have any history of animosity, do we ?

Suggestion:

The next time you are joking, put a smily face for insurance. Sometimes humor is mistaken for sarcasm on message boards.

Example:

"Shaddup Pep!" .... Is always a joke to me .... unless proven otherwise.